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natlee
11-04-2015, 20:25
The type who kiss your behind when you're alone with them, but not only stab you in the back when you aren't looking - they're beyond rude to your face, too, when in the company of certain.. scum! Have you met any of those?

One wouldn't expect such behavior from anyone other than a silly 7-12 year old child wanting to fit in with the 'cool' bunch, yet there seem to be plenty of adults who behave no better. So very sad... *shrug*

tonytony
11-04-2015, 21:00
OK, so I'm guessing that something's just happened.

So who has done what?

Benedikt
11-04-2015, 21:22
[QUOTE=natlee;1416104]The type who kiss your behind when you're alone with them, but not only stab you in the back when you aren't looking - they're beyond rude to your face, too, when in the company of certain.. scum! Have you met any of those?

don't even bother to reply. THAT is what they can't stand. to be ignored....

rusmeister
12-04-2015, 11:25
I think few of us have complete integrity, so that all of our words and actions behind one's back completely matched what we show to their faces. When we realize how we ourselves say and do little things, smile at someone and then backbite them in little ways, we realize that it's not just other people.

But I get that egregious cases suck. I'm just saying that it is much easier for us to get it when people do it to us, and harder to see when we do it to them, because we justify it.

Bogatyr
12-04-2015, 12:35
The type who kiss your behind when you're alone with them, but not only stab you in the back when you aren't looking - they're beyond rude to your face, too, when in the company of certain.. scum! Have you met any of those?

One wouldn't expect such behavior from anyone other than a silly 7-12 year old child wanting to fit in with the 'cool' bunch, yet there seem to be plenty of adults who behave no better. So very sad... *shrug*

OMG when I was young and just starting my career I met the ultimate two-faced manipulator. He was my "best buddy" at work, yet I discovered together with my manager that he had been playing us against one another viciously to the point where we couldn't stand one another. He once wrote me an email telling me that he "could run political circles around me." He was extremely chummy and seemingly good natured but in truth he was the absolute essence of evil. I made sure to torpedo his application to any later companies where I worked, and it came up several times. This is why you don't burn bridges in your career.

Uncle Wally
12-04-2015, 13:02
The type who kiss your behind when you're alone with them, but not only stab you in the back when you aren't looking - they're beyond rude to your face, too, when in the company of certain.. scum! Have you met any of those?

One wouldn't expect such behavior from anyone other than a silly 7-12 year old child wanting to fit in with the 'cool' bunch, yet there seem to be plenty of adults who behave no better. So very sad... *shrug*



Sounds like most girl to girl interactions.

natlee
12-04-2015, 14:09
I think few of us have complete integrity, so that all of our words and actions behind one's back completely matched what we show to their faces. When we realize how we ourselves say and do little things, smile at someone and then backbite them in little ways, we realize that it's not just other people.

But I get that egregious cases suck. I'm just saying that it is much easier for us to get it when people do it to us, and harder to see when we do it to them, because we justify it. I agree 100%. And although I've been called "brutally honest" I only am with people who are openly rude to or around me. In most cases, of course, I keep my opinions of people to myself - and, yes, occasionally to my close friends as well ;) But, the case in question was more about people who had known each other closely for years, and one in particular who then decided to show off in front of another... non-human. :) On a couple of occasions!


Sounds like most girl to girl interactions. Hmmm!

Uncle Wally
13-04-2015, 01:57
I agree 100%. And although I've been called "brutally honest" I only am with people who are openly rude to or around me. In most cases, of course, I keep my opinions of people to myself - and, yes, occasionally to my close friends as well ;) But, the case in question was more about people who had known each other closely for years, and one in particular who then decided to show off in front of another... non-human. :) On a couple of occasions!

Hmmm!



"brutally honest" people turn me on!!! Like you would not believe. Also people who are not afraid to bleed a little for something they love/ feel deeply about.


Two ways to go on this. Be " brutal" or just never talk with this person again. If you need back up just pm me. I can stand behind you and look "crazy" they will never talk about you again. They may even think about moving to a new city!


Sorry I'm drunk, but you are too good to worry about stupid people. You have your children and a man you love, isn't that enough pain and drama for you? But wouldn't you know it the first time in a long time you get free some stupid person has to fu•k that up for you. Would tell me that it's time to just stay home and be with people you are sure that love you. Like you beautiful daughters. You have time, you young and you'll be incredibly sexy for many more years. If you need to get out frustration learn to play drums or just count to ten and then crank some tunes!!!


Highway to Hell does it for me.

Fantastika
14-04-2015, 09:45
The type who kiss your behind when you're alone with them, but not only stab you in the back when you aren't looking - they're beyond rude to your face, too, when in the company of certain.. scum! Have you met any of those?

One wouldn't expect such behavior from anyone other than a silly 7-12 year old child wanting to fit in with the 'cool' bunch, yet there seem to be plenty of adults who behave no better. So very sad... *shrug*

Is this connected with the "self-esteem" thread?

My experience was, once, my cubicle abutted another, and a visitor to that cubicle would sit there for hours, whispering to the cubicle occupant. (This is government, I guess these people had nothing to do, all day long.) So in the morning, or afternoon, I would hear "whisper-whisper-whisper, he-he-he" and again "whisper-whisper, giggle-giggle." For *hours* this went on.

It started to irritate me. What were these people talking about? Why can't they have a normal conversation, and talk in a normal voice level? Why do they have to whisper? Why are they hiding their conversation? What are they laughing about, who are they laughing at? I did have work to do, and it started to affect my thought process (computer programming). I would be thinking of a logical solution, building an algorithm, and I would hear "whisper-whisper-whisper, hehehehehe" again and again and again, and I would lose my train of thought about the algorithm. My boss suggested I get a pair of earphones. I said no, why should I have to tolerate workplace disruptive behavior? I am not the problem, they are. One day I walked around the cubicle and told them, "Look, I can't concentrate with you two constantly whispering and giggling. Why are you whispering? Can you please stop it? It's disrupting my work." They looked at me incredulously. I guess they thought their behavior was okay, because nobody else had complained about it. (Nobody else was smart enough to articulate what was going on). About 5 minutes later, the man came to my cubicle, enraged. He threatened me. I called security, and they escorted him from the building. He was transferred to another location.

And that is how you handle a self-esteem problem caused by co-workers' covert hostility. If you have low self-esteem, or having problems in life or work, it may be caused by the hidden hostility of other people - co-workers, family, friends...when you confront them ("confront" = ask in a friendly manner), their reaction will tell you if they are the cause of your unease.

Bogatyr
14-04-2015, 13:04
I guess they thought their behavior was okay, because nobody else had complained about it. (Nobody else was smart enough to articulate what was going on).

Oh, this is a real pet peeve of mine. Nothing gets my goat like someone countering my (quite reasonable) complaints about something with the response "This is the first time anyone has ever said anything!" as if that alone were sufficient justification for the bad behavior/service!

(p.s. I also once sat in a cube directly across the hallway from a "Loud Howard", who would hold phone "meetings" at the top of his voice for hours instead of moving to a conference room. I really couldn't say much because that was just the way he talked, at full volume, all the time. And boy could he talk…on and on and on...).

MickeyTong
14-04-2015, 23:28
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y7RrsPgz980&index=3&list=FLcGdGh5sPHTbHT0ZN0fThHA

And here is the original by Son House (ZZ is prettier.....)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gx1OFl_y-ic

MickeyTong
14-04-2015, 23:35
Take advice from Peter Green:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8RhZDGLEXM

rusmeister
14-04-2015, 23:54
Hey, Mickey is still lurking!
Hiya, Mickey! :wave:

Fantastika
15-04-2015, 02:42
Take advice from Peter Green:

[url]https://www.youtube.com/


Why don't you just say what you mean instead of forcing one to watch a long boring video with ununderstandable words? What subtle "message" is one supposed to intuit from this oblique reply? Is Peter Green an expert on "two-faced people" or one of them, or singing about them, or...?

I take advice, about music only, from Peter Green.

One sphinx (Shurale) on the forum is enough, thanks.

natlee
15-04-2015, 13:07
Is this connected with the "self-esteem" thread? Not at all. My self-esteem is unaffected by such people (?), however, my faith in humanity is.

On second thought, such people and their sleaziness do wonders for my self-esteem. I tend to prefer other ways to boost it though..

MickeyTong
15-04-2015, 18:12
Hey, Mickey is still lurking!
Hiya, Mickey! :wave:

Yo, Rus! :wavey:

I have just returned to lurking after a few months of non-attendance: real life intruded upon my cyber existence, and still does. My crep-tolerance threshold is greatly reduced IRL, and it is sub-zero online. I'll try not to use the anonymity of this forum to vent my spleen, but I'm not making a promise of that.

Good to meet up again with you :beerbros:

MickeyTong
15-04-2015, 18:21
Why don't you just say what you mean instead of forcing one to watch a long boring video with ununderstandable words? What subtle "message" is one supposed to intuit from this oblique reply? Is Peter Green an expert on "two-faced people" or one of them, or singing about them, or...?

I take advice, about music only, from Peter Green.

One sphinx (Shurale) on the forum is enough, thanks.

No one here is forced to watch or read anything. Understanding can't be forced, either.

natlee
15-04-2015, 21:49
I cannot stand not being able to 'thank' ppl - am outta here until that's fixed! :verymad:

Fantastika
16-04-2015, 02:28
The consensus of this part of the forum seems to be like something I read written by a student on the inside cover of an old (1890's) school book:

"The elevator to success is closed, take the stairs."

:rofl:

rusmeister
16-04-2015, 07:27
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oXCuGvsThEw

Uncle Wally
16-04-2015, 12:15
I cannot stand not being able to 'thank' ppl - am outta here until that's fixed! :verymad:



Yes a protest! Great!!!

FatAndy
16-04-2015, 12:30
Yo, Rus! :wavey:

I have just returned to lurking after a few months of non-attendance: real life intruded upon my cyber existence, and still does. My crep-tolerance threshold is greatly reduced IRL, and it is sub-zero online. I'll try not to use the anonymity of this forum to vent my spleen, but I'm not making a promise of that.

Good to meet up again with you :beerbros:
Wow, what a people, and without a convoy... :D

Welcome back, I hope real life will be OK and we'll see you here more often ;)

Fantastika
16-04-2015, 16:21
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oXCuGvsThEw

That's hilarious :) but it sure hits the nail on the head to describe a lot of people around where I live... :)

Telekinetic Coffee Shop Surprise (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VlOxlSOr3_M&list=RD_xf3ELqb6kc&index=7) - One lady is screaming, but while she is screaming, she pulls out her cell phone to take video.

MickeyTong
17-04-2015, 22:55
Wow, what a people, and without a convoy... :D

Welcome back, I hope real life will be OK and we'll see you here more often ;)

Thanks, Andy. You are a gentleman and a scholar (not many of us left), as well as being a stonecrusher - is that a part-time profession or are you just an enthusiastic hobbyist?

It's good to meet up again :10518: