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justbe
10-10-2011, 18:49
You help me, i help three strangers for free — that's shortly. To explain the idea i should mention the Pay It Forward novel (http://www.payitforwardmovement.org/) by Catherine Ryan Hyde and a film (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pay_It_Forward_(film)) of the same name.

«
You see, I do something real good for three people.
And then when they ask how they can pay it back, I say they have to Pay It Forward. To three more people. Each. So nine people get helped. Then those people have to do twenty-seven.» He turned on the calculator, punched in a few numbers. «Then it sort of spreads out, see. To eighty-one. Then two hundred forty-three. Then seven hundred twenty-nine. Then two thousand, one hundred eighty-seven. See how big it gets?»
»

Don't want to talk about karma things and so on, but a helping hand in case someone needs it makes YOU feel better. It is the easiest way for YOU to find everyday reason to feel good. To break usual Moscow trend to dump on everything around and not to get addicted to teasing people — that's what i see around all the time and get often from people i know. There's no need to fill the official forms and to pay fees, to choose the head of the branch office or to visit weekly or monthly meetings. Just do it and it works as long as you are involved.

WikiHow gives some hints to those who have difficulties with finding a way to give help:

1. Be attentive wherever you are for opportunities to help someone. Perhaps you have an elderly or disabled neighbor who is too proud to ask for help with their yard work or maybe you're in a restaurant and see someone who looks like they could use some kind stranger to pay for their meal. You can change people's attitudes about the world through your unobtrusive acts of kindness.

2. Do something nice for someone you don't know (or don't know very well). It should be something significant, and not for a person from whom you expect a good deed — or anything at all, for that matter — in return.

3. Spread the word. If the person thanks you and wants to «repay» you (that is, pay it «back»), let them know that what you'd really like is for them to pay it «forward» — you'd like them to do something nice for three people they don't know, and ask those three people to do something nice for three more people. The idea is to consciously increase the goodness of the world.

4. Pay it forward. When you notice that somebody has done something nice for you, make a note in your mind to practice three acts of kindness towards other people, as described in Step 3. (http://www.wikihow.com/Pay-It-Forward)

You are welcome to get more info.


From:
http://www.kommersant.ru/doc/1776916
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http://www.wikihow.com/Pay-It-Forward
http://vkontakte.ru/club8109149
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Karma-Experiment-Pay-it-Forward/113742176519

justbe
10-10-2011, 20:17
PS Could be a dedication to Korotky Gennady.

quincunx55555
10-10-2011, 20:59
...

1. Be attentive wherever you are for opportunities to help someone. Perhaps you have an elderly or disabled neighbor who is too proud to ask for help with their yard work or maybe you're in a restaurant and see someone who looks like they could use some kind stranger to pay for their meal. You can change people's attitudes about the world through your unobtrusive acts of kindness.

2. Do something nice for someone you don't know (or don't know very well). It should be something significant, and not for a person from whom you expect a good deed — or anything at all, for that matter — in return.

...

Something that's fun to do (related to 2 above), is to pay for people standing in line behind you. Obviously it depends on what the line is for. Best if it's something easily affordable, where instead of getting change you can pay for three more people.

A similar "move" is to leave semi-valuable items in interesting places. You don't want the location to totally hide the gift. At the same time, the treasure should be "found" instead of laying in plain site. Leaving a gift card/phone card, with a note that says, "Call someone that misses you" or "Enjoy this meal with every taste bud!" written on it is one example.

Paying attention is a big part of this activity. Recognizing when someone needs help, recognizing when you are helped, and showing genuine gratitude by multiplying this positiveness. Sometimes this can be too easy!

Inola
10-10-2011, 21:30
A friend of mine (a French woman) who came to visit me last September was genuinely shocked when a man approached her while we were waiting in queue to buy metro tickets and gave away a spear ticket he claimed he didn't need.. When I told her such things happen pretty often here she stayed speechless for half an hour:)

...Russians are far from being all smiles and politeness, but are capable of completely disinterested kindness you probably don't see much of in the more civilized and "smiling" west-european countries.

justbe
10-10-2011, 23:52
A friend of mine (a French woman) who came to visit me last September was genuinely shocked when a man approached her while we were waiting in queue to buy metro tickets and gave away a spear ticket he claimed he didn't need.. When I told her such things happen pretty often here she stayed speechless for half an hour:)

...Russians are far from being all smiles and politeness, but are capable of completely disinterested kindness you probably don't see much of in the more civilized and "smiling" west-european countries.

It is not about personal qualities however, it is about planning to do some good thing. Like «С восьми утра до десяти — подвиг»:

http://youtu.be/wKHf5rkD9VA?t=2m

Inola
11-10-2011, 09:24
It is not about personal qualities however, it is about planning to do some good thing. Like «С восьми утра до десяти — подвиг»:

http://youtu.be/wKHf5rkD9VA?t=2m

I got it:) Your post has just reminded me of that example of unexpected kindness. Perhaps that man was already in the "подвиг" scheme too - you never know;)

SV1973a
11-10-2011, 10:01
But why do you limit it to only 3 good deeds?

justbe
11-10-2011, 11:29
But why do you limit it to only 3 good deeds?

First, it is not me who gives the limit. Second, it is a task and a rule to follow to pass to any other person. Look at the picture, it works like that:

http://us.123rf.com/400wm/400/400/alri/alri0910/alri091000012/5627315.jpg

I realize if you say to someone «do 12 good deeds», it would be too much and too difficult. But everyone like the figure «3», to start with 3 is easy.

justbe
11-10-2011, 11:30
I got it:) Your post has just reminded me of that example of unexpected kindness. Perhaps that man was already in the "подвиг" scheme too - you never know;)

I think if he was, he would ask your friend to do 3 good deeds after.

Inola
12-10-2011, 22:44
I think if he was, he would ask your friend to do 3 good deeds after.

They did not speak same language.. I haven't heard the conversation between them (was buying some tickets for self) and explained what happened to my shocked friend when he'd already walked away:D

justbe
12-10-2011, 23:08
They did not speak same language.. I haven't heard the conversation between them (was buying some tickets for self) and explained what happened to my shocked friend when he'd already walked away:D

Anyway nice story. Stories like this one usually break peoples' stereotypes.