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WilliamFTH
16-08-2007, 20:21
More and more people are accepting huge age gap in marriage and would like to do a survey. Should be interesting base on the view from both sexes.

WilliamFTH
16-08-2007, 21:41
Some feedback (comments) from both sides should be interesting.

Personally I prefer an age gap between 5 to 8 years as the man (hopefully) will be matured enough to handle the relationship and the women will be still in a suitable age to be pamper and receive the proper attention as deserve.

In Asia culture age is one of the consideration in a marriage, usually the wife (first wife as a reference) is either same age of a few younger compare to the husband. Now days age gap is no more a big issue and people are more open minded that an elderly female with a younger male is consider tolerable in many society.

With medical advancement and healthier life style, many do not look their age and it is hard to gauge a person age by their appearance and with modern education and equality women no long subject to external elements for marriage but more in to compatibility.

I personally would like to see some feedback from both sexes so we can exchange some views in this “argumentative” subject base on different culture back ground.

Umutt65
16-08-2007, 22:55
A man has to be older. 5 yrs is not enough ... I would like my husband to be my friend, teacher, protector, ... I have a boyfriend who is 5 yrs older but he is still a big child and I cant get a moral satisfaction from him. Thats annoying.

WilliamFTH
17-08-2007, 11:33
Age Gap different have to be consider as how old he is compare to you. My opinion as follow

Man (in most cases)
Below 30 yrs old – Mentally not matured yet and need a lot of excitement in life as still full of some so much ego and energy.
Below 40 yrs old – Have faced some failure in life and understand the power of money (status) and learn how to appreciate more.
Below 50 yrs old – The golden age, here is where power shift for men, men become the prime target for women…Hehehehe……you guys know what I mean.
Below 60 yrs old – Consider matured enough to enjoy small thing in life, understood and gathered enough experience to provide love and guidance.
Below 70 yrs old– Every day is a new beginning.


Woman (in most cases)
Below 20 yrs old – Emotional and full of life and wanted to soak in whatever available.
Below 30 yrs old – This is the years, where she knew what she can get with what she can offer….
Below 40 yrs old – The most confident age range or the most desperate age range depending on self esteem and status.
Below 50 yrs old – Fine wine…..She have gathered enough experience to understand men can not be change, either to tolerant or just leave.
Below 60 yrs old – Every day is a new beginning.


Women are usually in most cases more matured then men by 5 to 10 years, it also pending on background and education level.

Please feel free to comment, I might be wrong just my opinion.

TjRjn
27-08-2007, 17:17
I didn't use the survey because you didn't have an 'it doesn't matter' button. :D
At the moment I am seeing a 32 yo man. Some may say this is too young (I'm 42) but he has life experience - been married, had children etc... He is very mature, probably more so than me. ;)
On the other hand I've dated guys around early to mid 30's who were not as mature. (Yes! there's a pattern here..Lol)
It all comes down to the individual's - some men/woman never seem to grow up while others mature early. I have nothing against dating older men, but all the ones I've met so far seem to think life has either ended at 40 and have resigned themselves to a staid and boring life or they've hit their mid-life crisis and just want to date young girls and party all night. I wouldn't mind someone proving me wrong about this age group.

WilliamFTH
27-08-2007, 20:24
I didn't use the survey because you didn't have an 'it doesn't matter' button. :D
At the moment I am seeing a 32 yo man. Some may say this is too young (I'm 42) but he has life experience - been married, had children etc... He is very mature, probably more so than me. ;)
On the other hand I've dated guys around early to mid 30's who were not as mature. (Yes! there's a pattern here..Lol)
It all comes down to the individual's - some men/woman never seem to grow up while others mature early. I have nothing against dating older men, but all the ones I've met so far seem to think life has either ended at 40 and have resigned themselves to a staid and boring life or they've hit their mid-life crisis and just want to date young girls and party all night. I wouldn't mind someone proving me wrong about this age group.
experience and maturity. As I mentioned before women are generally more mature compare to men. I have dated older women too but it didn’t workout, maybe I was still a “big” kid at that time.....hehehe……..

Most of my friends or men around 40 behaviors just like you commented but there are some that are more matured same with women too. End of the day it is compatibility of both side, which age and experience play a very important role.