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zairah
13-02-2011, 19:19
wheeew!!!! im just wondering why sometimes even if you really like/love someone and you have different religion its an issueee...
haist!

zai

naomita
13-02-2011, 19:22
Really it is?!

Tate
13-02-2011, 19:23
wheeew!!!! im just wondering why sometimes even if you really like/love someone and you have different religion its an issueee...
haist!

zai

your own experience?which 2 religions are involved?

DavidB
13-02-2011, 19:54
I guess it depends on which religion. The strict varieties of Islam seem to be quite incompatible with other religions.

On the other hand, if you're talking about Roman Catholic, Lutheran, Anglican, Orthodox, and other varieties of Christianity, I think the most significant issue will be the language spoken at mass.

Tate
13-02-2011, 20:34
The strict varieties of Islam seem to be quite incompatible with other religions.

It's such a thing!!!-no doubt you right,David.but i was always wondering why they are so different from others,so strict if it's concerned the relationship with a person of the other religion.... i'd like to know which religions Zairah s speaking ab..

tvadim133
13-02-2011, 22:16
I guess, that if people are religious indeed, than it can be a problem.

For me there is none, I do not care about it at all.

I will never insist my partner to accept the Orthodox religion and I will not join her religion either.

"The problem" can be with children of in the multy religious family, but I guess, in this case the child can chose (if there is a necessity), when he is adult.

BrandonL
13-02-2011, 22:52
My woman, can be of any religion she wants, the minute she gets into a relationship with me though, she must become agnostic.

I was religious, until I reached the age of reason.

zairah
14-02-2011, 07:40
It's such a thing!!!-no doubt you right,David.but i was always wondering why they are so different from others,so strict if it's concerned the relationship with a person of the other religion.... i'd like to know which religions Zairah s speaking ab..

the two religion is ISLAM and CATHOLIC....
my experience and im having a hard time to choose thats why the guy gave me an ultimatum and I decided to think first alone without any pressure....

really difficult for me to give up my religion

DavidB
14-02-2011, 09:26
Are you living in a region where there are a lot of Muslims?

I personally think it's ridiculous, because even in Tatarstan, only half of the population follows Islam. Why are they so intolerant?

SV1973a
14-02-2011, 09:38
the two religion is ISLAM and CATHOLIC....
my experience and im having a hard time to choose thats why the guy gave me an ultimatum and I decided to think first alone without any pressure....

really difficult for me to give up my religion

An `ultimatum`... wow, that is what countries do just before they start war. He must surely love you a lot. Anyway, if you accept this `ultimatum`, you can expect many more to follow.
If I gave my wife any `ultimatum`, she would surely tell me to p1ss off.

The best thing for both of you would be to give up your religionS. When you are no longer bothered by commands from invisible friends (Allah, God, Mohamed, Jezus,... angels, demons) nor by fairytales written 2000 or 1400 years ago, you are free to follow your own reasoning.
It is a great way of living. No after-life unfortunately.

DavidB
14-02-2011, 09:52
Agreed, SV1973a. In most religions, the Bible is only a GUIDE.

Islamic extremists, of which there are many, seem to read their koran literally. I think that unless they learn to become respectful and intelligent, they will always be resented.

Ask any friends from Sweden about it. 10 years ago, they had almost no crime. Then some Islamic extremists immigrated and decided that all women should wear their ninjab clothes. Does someone really deserve to be raped or murdered because of the way they dress?

SV1973a
14-02-2011, 09:59
Islamic extremists, of which there are many, seem to read their koran literally. I think that unless they learn to become respectful and intelligent, they will always be resented.

...and will keep on living in the same backwarded circumstances as their ancestors have done for the last hundreds of years, without any hopes for improvement.

At least they get their 70 virgins...
There must be plenty of them... all those catholic nuns that have died the last 2000 years. The words `cat` and `bag` come to mind.

yakspeare
14-02-2011, 10:29
My mum was very religious and my dad a militant atheist and they were happily married for 35 years. It did screw us kids up, however. Both have different views of truth (absolute versus relative) and it made our teenage years very confusing. I would prefer that both were the same, regardless of what that might be.

However, I know several islam/christian combinations that worked out fine....the real issue is their parents and family members-who often put quite significant pressure and disapproval on such a union....does a child get baptised as a catholic, get circumcised etc.

If both are only nominal in their beliefs, and the families approve, then it should be no problem. If one takes the religion and its traditions more seriously, such a union will not work.

Remington
14-02-2011, 10:54
I prefer they both have same or similar religion or at least respect each other's religions without trying to impose their religion on their spouse or children. Both spouses should teach their children their different religions and allow their children to decide which path to take.

I'm conservative christian and my wife is orthodox but we agreed to respect each other's religions. We have no problems.

zairah
14-02-2011, 19:40
thanks you!
zai

tasel
15-02-2011, 20:15
Don't mix the relation with religion. Its like mixing alcohol with driving.
Relation is divine and religion is a sin.

Kraven Morehead
15-02-2011, 21:23
It is called respect. He must respect you as a person who can individual thoughts and ideas of your own

Ruth123
15-02-2011, 21:41
the two religion is ISLAM and CATHOLIC....
my experience and im having a hard time to choose thats why the guy gave me an ultimatum and I decided to think first alone without any pressure....

really difficult for me to give up my religion

Than don't, no need to.

If he is Moslem and you are Catholic - he can marry you without conversion - for what i know Shariah, the religious law, allows intermarriage with followers of other Abrahamic religions , while the children, from their point of view , are Moslem by default. (By Shariah a Moslem can't marry a Buddhist; a Hindu - that is a polytheist or an atheist per that matter.)

If you are Moslem and he is Catholic and from a country where Catholicism is strong... unless you convert OR unless his both biological and extended family are secular humanist - he gets to choose between you and his family.
If you are both quite young and attached to your families - that's obviously a problem.

Its different in the West and normal people don't even ask you of which affiliation you are - but West is West and its not like that everywhere.

Btw, just to add - if you are Moslem and he is not, i guess you know that by Shariah you mustn't marry him...

I know two such couples who made it - they were really into each other (still are), both left their families behind, both started their life anew abroad, but its not easy and i'd strongly advice you to think twice.
(If we are talking for example of Netherlands or Sweden, its not an issue, but in most of the countries it is and in some countries you can't even get married unless you are of the same religion.)

Not to shower on anyone's parade, just being realistic. :(

robertmf
17-02-2011, 02:09
I know two such couples who made it - they were really into each other (still are), both left their families behind, both started their life anew abroad, but its not easy and i'd strongly advice you to think twice.


Tochno. It's the "families" that will create the stumbling blocks animosity to a mixed marriage - whether it's religion or race issue or hillbillies :grind:

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It's not without cause that in marriage ceremonies, one family is on one side, and the other inlaws are on the opposite side ...

MaidMary
23-02-2011, 13:07
It is really sad to hear… I think it's the matter of how serious you are in regards to your religion, and how deep you are in it. Well, and how tolerant you are and how much you love someone. I cannot imagine to have to make a choice between faith and love. Maybe you two should have an open talk, and just understand how each of you sees your future... Good luck to you, zairah!

shani
27-03-2011, 01:57
Two things are very important:
Do you love him Yes/No?
He loves you (Not his words but your own feelings and understanding) Yes/No?
If answers are Yes then yours and his religion is called Love and that's all, after that you give it any name Islam, Christianity, Jewish, Hindu, Buddhist whatever it'll always a synonym of Love.
My advice is never trust on people comments that are deeply hated to one or other religion or in general to humanity by influence of Media rather than their own understanding like Mr. DavidB.
I pray for you and your love one a happy and wonderful life in peace and love which is actually a genuine meaning of Islam. Hope people could do a little Google at least before giving their judgment. and i'm agree with tvadim133, but tvadim133 forgot to mention one thing child born in multi religion family is more tolerant, helpful, intelligent, with full of love in soul as he/she realize in elder age that his/her parents belongs to different religion and he/she have to study, respect and understand both and of course after chose for him/her the one open the heart.
Best of luck!!!!

britpat1
27-03-2011, 03:46
Okay, short answer, yes it will and can work out.
Personal experience.
Forget what everyon else says and follow your heart.
Blissful happy experience, follow your heart.

Matt24
27-03-2011, 10:53
Two things are very important:
Do you love him Yes/No?
He loves you (Not his words but your own feelings and understanding) Yes/No?
If answers are Yes then yours and his religion is called Love and that's all,

Oy that's pretty, well done

Matt