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blonde
18-06-2005, 22:50
Well known that in most successful couples, a man is older then a woman… often in 5-10 years.
Do you think that 15 - 20 year-difference is also appropriate?
What do you think of couples where a woman is older then a man?

Or you might think that feelings has nothing to do with age... :rolleyes:

Give your opinions!

koba65
18-06-2005, 23:01
Blondika - this has already been discussed. I think there was even a poll about it on here.

blonde
18-06-2005, 23:06
That must've been long before I join the expat.ru :D :D :D

Jake Day
19-06-2005, 09:53
I'm all for it, as long as she's old enough to be in university... women my age are way too emotionally mature for me!

Broken Arrow
19-06-2005, 10:19
Blondie!!!!!!!
I like women older than me. I like womn 5 - 10 years elder than me. Its ok with me.

Halyavshik
19-06-2005, 13:37
Well known that in most successful couples, a man is older then a woman… often in 5-10 years

I know several successful couples where the woman is older than the man and see nothing that would lead me to believe that one way is better than the other.

TQ
19-06-2005, 13:42
My ex is 27, Im 29. My Mom is 45, my stepdad is 42. My Dad is 55 my Stepmom is 43....my Grandma is 82 and my grandpa would have been 93 this year (miss ya popie, very much)

My ex's sister just dated a 32 year old (she was 17) they broke up for reasons other then the age thing... :)

Broken Arrow
19-06-2005, 14:12
ROFPMSL!!!!!! :happymad:

BTW. Are you serious TQ? :suspect:
I agree with your heading, but the statements down, is some what hmmmmmm...... say.......... EXTRAORDINARY. :rolleyes:

I'm 22 could I buy a drink for you???????????????????? :inlove:

Benedikt
19-06-2005, 19:20
... for me it was always, it is enough that i am old, so my dates / girls (before i was married) and now my wife, should be much younger than i was.
and the other way around, it is fine with me, but it seems for one reason or other if a MAN has a younger partner / date / wife he seems to be so good and what a stud, but if the woman is older her man is a toy, apparently. why? everyone ahs the right to be happy in his/ her/ their way as long as they don't offend others.

Emk
19-06-2005, 20:33
Age is not so important when it comes to true feelings, I think.

TQ
19-06-2005, 21:11
I agree with your heading, but the statements down, is some what hmmmmmm...... say.......... EXTRAORDINARY. :rolleyes:




What kind of extraordinarity do you see here?

blonde
20-06-2005, 00:21
Age is not so important when it comes to true feelings, I think.

What true fillings are?
It's a controversial question!

What do you think of a couples with more then 20 years age difference?

kazachka
20-06-2005, 11:01
Age is not so important when it comes to true feelings, I think.
I think I'll have to agree with this. Though, I'll admit, (before you all blast me on this one)I tend to date ppl older than I am. I find older guys (at least the ones I know)to be less infantile. If I were to get involved with someone say 10 +yrs my junior, It would be akward for me especially as a former HIGH SCHOOL TEACHER :shame: :shame: :yikes: it would be like dating my students or my younger brother's friends!!! YIKES! I do not have the desire to become the next Mary Kay Loterneau:) I remember when I was 22, I was teaching at the university and high school and was more attracted to older guys simply because most of my peers were still in school partying etc. and I felt I had more in common with a guy I dated that was 18 yrs my senior than if had chosen someone in my age bracket. OTOH my aunt was 11 yrs younger than my uncle and they were happily married until he passed away 3 yrs ago. Another friend of mine is 61 and with a 34 yr old woman-SO WHAT!? He's active and atlhletic and it's very difficult for him to fine ppl in his age bracket that enjoy the same things he does. If 2 ppl are in the same place emotionally/ developmentally, then age shouldn't matter.

TQ
20-06-2005, 11:06
Age is not so important when it comes to true feelings, I think.

I 've dated people my age, younger than me and older, and have made it to the conclusion that the young ones are quicker at taking out the garbage. :inlove:

blonde
20-06-2005, 11:41
Most of my dates were almost my age, regardless one year younger and 3-5 years older.
I don't feel comfortable with a man 20+, feeling like dating a father :D

veejay
20-06-2005, 12:01
i think it simply depends upon where the two people are and how they relate to one another...i've dated men who are younger, but, they just don't do it for me. older men (5 to 10 yrs) suit me better, simply because we tend to be on the same level emotionally and intellectually, and at the end of the day, that's what's most important for me. long ago, i was seriously involved with a man who was 17 yrs my senior. it was a bit weird when we were talking about the day JFK was shot and he started to ask me where i was and realised that i was not yet...that is, i was not alive yet. our relationship ended for a variety of reasons. age might have been one, but it was not by any means the only reason.

bottom line, if two people suit one another, age doesn't really matter...IMHO...:-)

Aleydis
20-06-2005, 12:24
I was going to post something but it would be restating what veejay said.. I generally get along better with men 5-10 years my senior :) and for true love age shouldn't matter :)

druna
20-06-2005, 13:11
I have experience meeting ladies from 18 years younger to 10 years older than me. Age is not an issue, if you feel fine together, that's the right thing. :) :) :)

Cherry
20-06-2005, 13:13
What true fillings are?
It's a controversial question!


Quant a moi.... apple, strawberry and chocolate fillings....mmm are truly the best :thumbsup: :p :agree:

TQ
20-06-2005, 13:15
Quant a moi.... apple, strawberry and chocolate fillings....mmm are truly the best :thumbsup: :p :agree:

:thumbsup: everybody adds their favourite flava :)

blonde
20-06-2005, 13:17
it was "feelings" , not "fillings" ... :D :D :D

jchidg1
20-06-2005, 13:25
My boyfriend is 6 years younger than me. Fortunately he has more wrinkles and is decidedly more grown up.

Cherry
20-06-2005, 13:34
i have a bizarre addiction to the men born in 1978 :rolleyes: :inlove:

TQ
20-06-2005, 14:00
It makes sense to date a man your own age - as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight :)

Nicole
20-06-2005, 14:07
IMHO any age difference is fine as long as both people involved understand where the other is coming from, want cimilar things from life and there are true feelings present. If it's going to work depends on so many things and individual live circumstances.
I know many couples with considerable age diff either way and some are happy, some are not, depending on the above mentioned factors.
Personally I'm starting to lean towards the idea that for me 5-9 years my senior is max, preferably less. I have a few close male friends who are 20-25 years older than me, but I could never date them, possibly because my father is the same age, and there is some kind of weird age barrier in my head "never date anyone same age or older than your father". :nut:
Never dated anyone yonger so can't say anything about that.

equalizer
20-06-2005, 14:16
personally when i first arrived here i thought Russian men where so good to their daughters, then i figured it out and felt repulsed and still do many years later.
how desperate can some young women be ,but social needs are growing and just to keep up with the latnet LV bag Russian women will go further than most women .
another way to look at the question,how many times have you seen a handsome young bloke tagged along with some rich fat sugar momma?
you dont ,at least men have certain principles

RDV
20-06-2005, 14:17
I don't feel comfortable with a man 20+, feeling like dating a father :D

Aye :agree: :agree: :agree:

Daria
20-06-2005, 15:24
To my mind if a man is much older than a woman that may mean 2 things;
1. she married him for money
2. they are both mad/ Or maybe madly in love :inlove:

But madness passes and an old sick man stays with you.

Remedios
20-06-2005, 15:29
Daria, I would have been the happiest person in the world if my beloved person had stayed with me, even if he becomes fat, old, sick, poor or disabled... :inlove: :inlove: :inlove:

Nicole
20-06-2005, 15:52
Remedios, I agree.

And in the end of the day it's all down to feelings and personal circumstances. I'm sure people with positive and happy experience resulting from relationship with 20 years and greater age difference will tell you there's nothing better in the world and they love the person so the age doesn't matter. And they will be right.
People with negative experience will swear never to go there again. So it's all different.One can speculate forever about what ifs. But once one comes accross it it's a different story all together.

Britanski Soldat
20-06-2005, 16:12
It makes sense to date a man (or woman) of your own age - as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight :)

TQ,

That is an excellent reason and amused me..................

However, if there is chemistry and a strong feeling between both parties, then age difference should not be an issue unless the gap is massive.

I know a number of couples where there is 15 years plus between them and in all cases they remain totally committed to one another. In each case the husband is the older and remains 'younger at heart' as a result of satisfying his wife's needs...............whatever they may be!

I'm sorry to say it, but I also think that having a younger wife with that sort of age gap could make the husband work a little bit harder at being a considerate and caring husband before her eyes start to look elsewhere...........................!

TQ
20-06-2005, 16:49
TQ,

That is an excellent reason and amused me..................

However, if there is chemistry and a strong feeling between both parties, then age difference should not be an issue unless the gap is massive.

In each case the husband is the older and remains 'younger at heart' as a result of satisfying his wife's needs...............whatever they may be!

................!


Love is entirely a matter of chemistry, certainly. That must be why some people treat their wifes/hunbands like toxic waste :vader:

OK now serious part. Older physically, younger at heart is acceptable for the majority unless it gets to the ultimate like 'i am 55, look 35 act 15'. :)

blonde
20-06-2005, 17:01
Older physically, younger at heart is acceptable for the majority unless it gets to the ultimate like 'i am 55, look 35 act 15'. :)\


LOL :)

Nicole
20-06-2005, 17:04
Love is entirely a matter of chemistry, certainly. That must be why some people treat their wifes/hunbands like toxic waste :vader:

OK now serious part. Older physically, younger at heart is acceptable for the majority unless it gets to the ultimate like 'i am 55, look 35 act 15'. :)
LOL

Britanski Soldat
20-06-2005, 17:10
Love is entirely a matter of chemistry, certainly. That must be why some people treat their wives/hunbands like toxic waste

Yet again, TQ - your humour and use of english has amused me. Most impressive for a Serb who is clearly equipped with 'Acerbic' wit - prounounced 'Aserbic' just in case you didn't know.........................!

J.D.
20-06-2005, 17:10
i think it simply depends upon where the two people are and how they relate to one another...i've dated men who are younger, but, they just don't do it for me. older men (5 to 10 yrs) suit me better, simply because we tend to be on the same level emotionally and intellectually, ..:-)

Why is it ok for a girl to want an older guy becuase he is more intellectual and emotionally mature and therefore a better match
BUT
it is not alright for a guy to want a younger girl because she is less intellectual and less mature and THEREFORE a better match for him
???

Emk
20-06-2005, 21:23
What true fillings are?
It's a controversial question!

What do you think of a couples with more then 20 years age difference?

Blonde, I certainly don't mean extremities like, for example, she's 18 and he's 60. But some 20 years are ok, I think. Although I agree with Nicole, we all have some inner barriers. But still love, understanding, emotional ties and many many other things are much more important than age.

veejay
20-06-2005, 22:04
Why is it ok for a girl to want an older guy becuase he is more intellectual and emotionally mature and therefore a better match
BUT
it is not alright for a guy to want a younger girl because she is less intellectual and less mature and THEREFORE a better match for him
???

don't think there's anything wrong with that...although it seems as though there is a certain amount of 'trophy bride' hunting that goes on...i'm not saying that is always the case...but...it certainly does exist.

Viagra Girl
21-06-2005, 01:15
There is a great gap between "official paper" age and real one. I know ppl that are never young even at 10, and others that are never mature even being a parent.

Britanski Soldat
21-06-2005, 12:56
Furthermore, I also think that you are as young as you feel. If you keep fit, do a lot of exercise and lead an active life, you will retain your youth.

Those men married to far younger women tend to work harder at keeping themselves youngish at heart.. If they have children and he is generally older than he would be expected to be to have such young children, they then can also assist in keeping him young and active. He may tire more quickly due to his age but he will definitely be more energetic keeping them entertained etc

Of course, they also say that a man is old as he feels, or rather as old as the woman that he is feeling.........................!

TQ
21-06-2005, 13:21
Furthermore, I also think that you are as young as you feel. If you keep fit, do a lot of exercise and lead an active life, you will retain your youth.



Here's another secret of staying young. Live honestly, eat slowly, exercise /sexercise and lie about your age :)

I don't feel old..... I don't feel anything till noon..... That's when it's time for my nap :D

Britanski Soldat
21-06-2005, 14:13
Oh, I see.....................!