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dontcallme
13-03-2010, 12:00
I've been asked by Bels to be in the Hot Seat and for some reason I have decided to accept. I am not on here everyday but I promise to answer all questions as best I can.

AndreyS
13-03-2010, 12:07
I've been asked by Bels to be in the Hot Seat and for some reason I have decided to accept. I am not on here everyday but I promise to answer all questions as best I can.

Why did you choose such a strange (for an EFL teacher) nick?

Kraven Morehead
13-03-2010, 12:09
How much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood?

Please no calculators.

dontcallme
13-03-2010, 12:25
Why did you choose such a strange (for an EFL teacher) nick?

When I went travelling a long time ago a lot of my friends complained that I never contacted them. When I needed a new email address I went through what was available and "dontcallme" seemed to fit. I use it on all forums that I use. As an EFL teacher it probably doesn't sound very professional and may be ill-advised.


How much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood?

Please no calculators.

A woodchuck cannot chuck any wood and if it could it still wouldn't chuck wood as that isn't what it is designed to do.

Dolgoprudny Neil
13-03-2010, 14:25
How long have you been in Moscow?

Have you taught in any other countries? If so, how does Moscow compare?

dontcallme
13-03-2010, 15:45
How long have you been in Moscow?

Have you taught in any other countries? If so, how does Moscow compare?

I have been in Moscow for 18 months.

I taught in Indonesia for 6 weeks. It was voluntary and an amazing experience as the children had a thirst for knowledge which puts most people to shame.

I taught part time in England. I had some international flat mates who recommended friends of theirs to have lessons at a discounted rate to give me some experience and them some cheap lessons with a native speaker.

Moscow is the first place where I have taught full time. Because of that it is very hard to compare but the desire most of my students have to learn is similar to what I experienced in Indonesia.

TD
13-03-2010, 19:16
car or metro?
favorite bar/club?
favorite store/supermarket?
PC or Mac?

Bels
13-03-2010, 23:02
What made you decide to come to Russia?
Was it the intention of teaching or another reason?
Do you have a regular boyfriend?
Do you intend to to stay in Russia.
What do you like about Russia?

MissAnnElk
13-03-2010, 23:12
Favorite author?

Sports team?

Color?

dontcallme
13-03-2010, 23:13
car or metro?
favorite bar/club?
favorite store/supermarket?
PC or Mac?

Metro - cheap, quick and reliable. Especially compared to the London underground.
I like Buddies, good service, friendly people and lots of regulars there who will come over and say hello.
I'm not really into shopping though I do like doing my food shopping at the local outdoor markets. Much friendlier than any other service you get in Moscow (excluding Buddies of course).
No idea what a Mac is so I guess a PC.



What made you decide to come to Russia?
Was it the intention of teaching or another reason?
Do you have a regular boyfriend?
Do you intend to to saty in Russia.
What do you like about Russia? And what do you like about Russia or Mocow? As some say, Russia is Moscow?

When in my teens and early 20's I did a lo of aimless backpacking but I couldn't live this lifestyle forever so I went back to England to work and educate myself better. After feeling a bit bored and stuck in my job I decided I needed a new experience. Russia is an unknown mystery to myself and many other Brits so I guess I came here out of curiosity more than anything else. I'd already looked into teaching abroad and when I got an offer in Moscow I was more than happy to accept.
No, I'm a straight male.
No, I plan to leave Moscow at the end of my contract in the summer.
I like the people. I like the fact that life isn't so structured here and I enjoy my job.
I don't understand your last two questions

dontcallme
13-03-2010, 23:16
Favorite author?

Sports team?

Color?

Nick Hornby, William Sutcliffe and Michael Crichton. I like contemporary authors who make good observations on life and how we are today.

Tottenham

Red

MissAnnElk
13-03-2010, 23:20
I do love Nick Hornby. High Fidelity made a good movie (but I am partial to John Cusack . . . interesting reading the UK-based book and then seeing the US-based movie). I think Long Way Down was my favorite, however.

Bels
13-03-2010, 23:42
LOL! Fast enough answer for me me to edit.

Do you intend to stay in Moscow? Although I accept you have already answered,

But last question was what fascinated you about Russia or Moscow? I now simplify the question without personal comment.



Metro - cheap, quick and reliable. Especially compared to the London underground.
I like Buddies, good service, friendly people and lots of regulars there who will come over and say hello.
I'm not really into shopping though I do like doing my food shopping at the local outdoor markets. Much friendlier than any other service you get in Moscow (excluding Buddies of course).
No idea what a Mac is so I guess a PC.




When in my teens and early 20's I did a lo of aimless backpacking but I couldn't live this lifestyle forever so I went back to England to work and educate myself better. After feeling a bit bored and stuck in my job I decided I needed a new experience. Russia is an unknown mystery to myself and many other Brits so I guess I came here out of curiosity more than anything else. I'd already looked into teaching abroad and when I got an offer in Moscow I was more than happy to accept.
No, I'm a straight male.
No, I plan to leave Moscow at the end of my contract in the summer.
I like the people. I like the fact that life isn't so structured here and I enjoy my job.
I don't understand your last two questions

Bels
13-03-2010, 23:50
Mac is Apple, Mac is Mackintosh. The one only competitor and option to windows. And for the loyal users? They swear blind blind by it. About 20% of the market compared to windows, and rising as windows customer continue to have discontent with the restictive controlled windows service. Mac is apparently easier, more user friendly, and for example doesn't need defrag, etc, etc.


Metro - cheap, quick and reliable. Especially compared to the London underground.
I like Buddies, good service, friendly people and lots of regulars there who will come over and say hello.
I'm not really into shopping though I do like doing my food shopping at the local outdoor markets. Much friendlier than any other service you get in Moscow (excluding Buddies of course).
No idea what a Mac is so I guess a PC.

When in my teens and early 20's I did a lo of aimless backpacking but I couldn't live this lifestyle forever so I went back to England to work and educate myself better. After feeling a bit bored and stuck in my job I decided I needed a new experience. Russia is an unknown mystery to myself and many other Brits so I guess I came here out of curiosity more than anything else. I'd already looked into teaching abroad and when I got an offer in Moscow I was more than happy to accept.
No, I'm a straight male.
No, I plan to leave Moscow at the end of my contract in the summer.
I like the people. I like the fact that life isn't so structured here and I enjoy my job.
I don't understand your last two questions

herald1973
13-03-2010, 23:59
Left or right-handed?

dontcallme
14-03-2010, 07:57
LOL! Fast enough answer for me me to edit.

Do you intend to stay in Moscow? Although I accept you have already answered,

But last question was what fascinated you about Russia or Moscow? I now simplify the question without personal comment.

Russian history has been pretty devastating and controversial so I wanted to come here and see for myself what the people are really like.


Left or right-handed?

Left-handed for writing and right handed for sports.

MissAnnElk
14-03-2010, 12:06
What is your idea of the perfect weekend while in Russia?

eyecandy
14-03-2010, 13:35
What is your idea of happiness? What makes you feel happy? When did you last feel that way?

eyecandy
14-03-2010, 13:41
What is it LOVE? Are you in love?

dontcallme
14-03-2010, 15:15
What is your idea of the perfect weekend while in Russia?

Same as back home. Play some sports with friends, have a few beers and chat with good people. Need hot weather to truly enjoy this and don;t get it enough here.


What is your idea of happiness? What makes you feel happy? When did you last feel that way?

Happiness comes from finding the things in life that you truly enjoy and then do them. Sounds simple but lots of people go clubbing when they don't enjoy it, listen to music that doesn't move them because their friends listen to it and follow the crowd rather than do what they really enjoy.

I enjoy being around a lot of people who I feel truly comfortable with, lots of laughs and no attention seekers. Meeting someone who I find myself on the same wavelength with and who understands me is one of the best feelings in the world and I haven't felt like that since I was in England 18 months ago.


What is it LOVE? Are you in love?

I have no idea, I've never been in love.

Sasha girl
14-03-2010, 16:01
What will you be doing when back to England? Do you think you will be different then, after "Russian" expirience? If short term life in Russia will change you, then in what way, do you think?
Thanks!

eyecandy
14-03-2010, 19:00
What is your ideal of woman like? What should she do, what shouldn't?
What is close to you: to chase or to be chased?
What do you like more to give or get calls?

eyecandy
14-03-2010, 19:04
When travelling what were you looking for?

dontcallme
14-03-2010, 20:49
What will you be doing when back to England? Do you think you will be different then, after "Russian" expirience? If short term life in Russia will change you, then in what way, do you think?
Thanks!

I'm going to study Journalism and Sociology.
Good question, I hope I've grown up and learnt some new lessons.
I really don't know how my experience here will change me but I doubt I'll ever complain at -2 degrees ever again!


What is your ideal of woman like? What should she do, what shouldn't?
What is close to you: to chase or to be chased?
What do you like more to give or get calls?

I like a girl who has an open mind who shows confidence but doesn't think she's right all the time. In life I'm always open to learning from others and getting new ideas and I like others around me to do the same.
By close do you mean favourable? I hate games, I just like a mutual attraction where everything is comfortable. I don't often chase as I don't like to treat people as a prize.
I like to receive calls and when I call I love it when there is genuine happiness from the other person because it is me they are talking to. That being said, too many calls becomes annoying. I like to miss people and not talk for a couple of days sometimes, at times this has unfortunately come across as a lack of interest.


When travelling what were you looking for?
New experiences, the feeling that I am doing something I haven't done before and a chance to look back and reflect on my life. Sometimes I need to take a breather and see how I can improve things.

Bels
14-03-2010, 21:07
Nice post, and you are a true explorer of the world. Just like me and it can be addictive.

But you don't like games? I have always loved games, in reality and anywhere else. Playing games is life to me. Teasing or whatever is playing games. It's fun and we should all seek fun.

Hopefully further degree never change, but simply alow you to venture in your own thoughts and question. Good luck on your further study.

Do you have a fiance or a woman of whom you realy love at the moment?

I'm going to study Journalism and Sociology.
Good question, I hope I've grown up and learnt some new lessons.
I really don't know how my experience here will change me but I doubt I'll ever complain at -2 degrees ever again!



I like a girl who has an open mind who shows confidence but doesn't think she's right all the time. In life I'm always open to learning from others and getting new ideas and I like others around me to do the same.
By close do you mean favourable? I hate games, I just like a mutual attraction where everything is comfortable. I don't often chase as I don't like to treat people as a prize.
I like to receive calls and when I call I love it when there is genuine happiness from the other person because it is me they are talking to. That being said, too many calls becomes annoying. I like to miss people and not talk for a couple of days sometimes, at times this has unfortunately come across as a lack of interest.


New experiences, the feeling that I am doing something I haven't done before and a chance to look back and reflect on my life. Sometimes I need to take a breather and see how I can improve things.

dontcallme
15-03-2010, 12:43
Nice post, and you are a true explorer of the world. Just like me and it can be addictive.

But you don't like games? I have always loved games, in reality and anywhere else. Playing games is life to me. Teasing or whatever is playing games. It's fun and we should all seek fun.

Hopefully further degree never change, but simply alow you to venture in your own thoughts and question. Good luck on your further study.

Do you have a fiance or a woman of whom you realy love at the moment?

Unfortunately not. The rest of my life is pretty good though so I'm not complaining.

Dolgoprudny Neil
15-03-2010, 12:48
What do you dislike most about life in Moscow?

eyecandy
15-03-2010, 12:54
What do you like and what do you hate/dislike in character, nature of women?
Of men?

eyecandy
15-03-2010, 12:57
Have you ever been married? Do you have children?
Why do you think men get married?

dontcallme
15-03-2010, 13:24
What do you dislike most about life in Moscow?

The long winters have a serious effect on peoples mood, mine especially.


What do you like and what do you hate/dislike in character, nature of women?
Of men?

I love women with a kind, caring nature. I also love their strange logic. I hate women who think they have a strong character but don't understand that there is a difference between having a strong character and being a bitch.

I hate when men use their perceived intelligence as a sign that they are right or somehow better than other people. That scene in Good Will Hunting where a university student is belittling Ben Afflecks labourer is something I observe almost everyday.


Have you ever been married? Do you have children?
Why do you think men get married?

No never been married or have children.

I think there's lots of reasons men get married. Some to show commitment, some to make his women "his and no one elses", some because there's children on the way, some because they're following social norms and what is expected of them and probably 1,000 other reasons I can't think of right now. At the moment I have no desire to get married but it'll be interesting to see how I feel if I'm lucky enough to meet someone special.

eyecandy
15-03-2010, 15:36
What do you think is a real friend? Do you have many friends? Who are better friends, men or women? Why?
Friendship (and only) between man and woman. Does it exist?

eyecandy
15-03-2010, 15:38
What do you think is better: to love or to be loved?

dontcallme
15-03-2010, 17:20
What do you think is a real friend? Do you have many friends? Who are better friends, men or women? Why?
Friendship (and only) between man and woman. Does it exist?

A real friend is someone you can be yourself with, someone you can feel comfrtable with and feel an unspoken understanding with. I don't believe a friend has to be reliable, there for you when you're feeling down or any of the other cliches.

I have a lot of friends in London but very few in Moscow. Both men and women can be both good and bad friends.

Friendship can definitely exist between men and women but in my opinion only when there is no attraction between you. This can be after a relationship when the attraction has ended and you fall into the friend zone or when you meet and for some reason there is no attraction on either side. I have several good female friends with back home and whether we've been single or in a relationship with other people there has never been an attraction.


What do you think is better: to love or to be loved?

Both are nice.

herald1973
15-03-2010, 17:50
Do you think that phyisical attraction can exist between persons of the same gender? And also love could exist in such way?

Did you ever feel attracted to men?

What is your height and weight?

Bels
15-03-2010, 20:39
Do you think that phyisical attraction can exist between persons of the same gender? And also love could exist in such way?

Did you ever feel attracted to men?

What is your height and weight?

Funny. Male to male I have no interest in Doncallme's physical appearance on height and weight on this forum, and that would apply if I had the oppurtunity in meeting him. It doesn't matter. The more interstesting factor is if he is an interesting genuine person.

I also do believe that he hasn't given any hint as to being gay, therefore we must assume him as the majority, and that is straight.

I am curious though. Why are you so interested in his physical appearance? Do you fancy him? And are you gay?

dontcallme
15-03-2010, 20:47
Do you think that phyisical attraction can exist between persons of the same gender? And also love could exist in such way?

Did you ever feel attracted to men?

What is your height and weight?

Yes and yes

No I am straight

I'm 5ft9 and before winter I was 196lbs. I will have a month of running and playing sports before I dare weigh myself again.


Funny. Male to male I have no interest in Doncallme's physical appearance on height and weight on this forum, and that would apply if I had the oppurtunity in meeting him. It doesn't matter. The more interstesting factor is if he is an interesting genuine person.

I also do believe that he hasn't given any hint as to being gay, therefore we must assume him as the majority, and that is straight.

I am curious though. Why are you so interested in his physical appearance? Do you fancy him? And are you gay?

I've met Herald and he is straight but possibly fancies me, for my lovely personality rather than looks.

Bels
15-03-2010, 21:04
OK. So may I assume this was just a cheeky post from someone who knows you? Quite acceptible.


Yes and yes

No I am straight

I'm 5ft9 and before winter I was 196lbs. I will have a month of running and playing sports before I dare weigh myself again.



I've met Herald and he is straight but possibly fancies me, for my lovely personality rather than looks.

Bels
15-03-2010, 21:09
OK let's move on. What are your future plans. How long do you plan on staying in Russia. And where will go next? Will you continue your plan on TEFL as a profession, or will you move on to do something else? Do you have a serious relationship at the moment? A russian woman perhaps?

herald1973
15-03-2010, 21:55
I do agree with you that ofcourse it is interesting to know if Dontcallme is an interesting and genuine person, and he seems very much so, as well an very integer person.
My question was to have more an idea of how he thinks about this argument rather than to express my own interests (but to answer my question I do not think I am gay at this moment, at least not more than the majority of persons, but this could change I think).

Lastly, I do not think that I am more interested in physical apearance than anybody else. Or maybe if Dontcallme has an extremely good physical appearance, it could be interesting for me (being a fat, ugly and boring guy) to hang out with him so maybe the ladies would at least maybe notice me .....

Herald


Funny. Male to male I have no interest in Doncallme's physical appearance on height and weight on this forum, and that would apply if I had the oppurtunity in meeting him. It doesn't matter. The more interstesting factor is if he is an interesting genuine person.

I also do believe that he hasn't given any hint as to being gay, therefore we must assume him as the majority, and that is straight.

I am curious though. Why are you so interested in his physical appearance? Do you fancy him? And are you gay?

Kraven Morehead
15-03-2010, 22:06
Journalism, is there any particular event that you read or witnessed that defined your choice?

Traveling, in your travels, have you witnesses anything that opened your eyes and changed you as person or your ideas about something? If so, what?


Do you feel that your own culture upbringing makes you biased to view other social system and cultural?

With all the questions from eyecandy about love, are curious what this person looks like?

dontcallme
15-03-2010, 22:20
OK let's move on. What are your future plans. How long do you plan on staying in Russia. And where will go next? Will you continue your plan on TEFL as a profession, or will you move on to do something else? Do you have a serious relationship at the moment? A russian woman perhaps?

I will be in Russia until the summer. I will leave then to study journalism and sociology in Kingston.

I plan to teach privately in London to fund my studies.

No relationship at the moment.


Journalism, is there any particular event that you read or witnessed that defined your choice?

Traveling, in your travels, have you witnesses anything that opened your eyes and changed you as person or your ideas about something? If so, what?

Do you feel that your own culture upbringing makes you biased to view other social system and cultural?

With all the questions from eyecandy about love, are curious what this person looks like?

Not really. I enjoy writing and I have a creative mind but don't yet have the tools to express myself properly.

Several things. I spent two weeks in prison and 6 weeks on bail in Thailand on a visa violation (found not guilty, don't worry I'm not a criminal). In India I saw an awful lot of poverty. Especially in prison I got to witness first hand how people become who they are. I didn't really meet any evil people in prison but mostly a direct result of poverty. Many of the people knew they'd be caught eventually but sacrificed themselves for their family.

Not really, I see a lot of problems in our own structure and I don't feel I have enough knowledge about other systems to criticise. When I visit other countries I tend not to criticise anyway as I like to observe and hear how others feel about it. When people come to the UK and criticise it I get annoyed so I don't do the same in return.

I wasn't but I am now.

tvadim133
15-03-2010, 22:36
Can you. please, tell a bit more about your experience in the prison in Thailand.

6 weeks are a lot, to my mind. So how did you feel there? How did it change you from any points of view?

dontcallme
15-03-2010, 23:14
Can you. please, tell a bit more about your experience in the prison in Thailand.

6 weeks are a lot, to my mind. So how did you feel there? How did it change you from any points of view?

There's quite a lot to tell so if there's any particular part you're most interested in please specify and I'll answer tomorrow.

The first day I felt like a kid going to a new school for the first time. I felt scared, out of place, unsure of how to act, who to talk to and how to spend my time. I was the only white guy and the only non-Asian inside so I was an oddity to say the least. The few guys who spoke any English came to talk to me and showed a sort of selflessness that I have never experienced before or since. They told me how things worked and guided me through my time there. Everyone gave, everyone shared and no one expected anything.

It changed me in many ways. It showed me what true selflessness is and how a simple act of kindness can really help someone else.

Probably most importantly though was I started to fully appreciate what an advantage being white is. I was treated with more respect than anyone including by the warden. I was mostly looked up to and for very little reason. Since leaving prison I've started to notice more how much more respect I get from people (anywhere in the world) compared to my black and Asian friends.

shurale
15-03-2010, 23:50
Have you ever cheated on your girlfriend? In other words, have you ever been unfaithful to her?
What would your rather: wait till it fizzles out, dump or be dumped?

dontcallme
16-03-2010, 10:57
Have you ever cheated on your girlfriend? In other words, have you ever been unfaithful to her?
What would your rather: wait till it fizzles out, dump or be dumped?

No never cheated. Because of my lifestyle I've never really believed any of my relationships were going to last forever but I hope we can all look back at them as good times and for me that includes being faithful.

Waiting for it to fizzle out is easiest but knowing when and how to end a relationship is best. Being dumped is horrible even when you're not that into the relationship, hurts the ego.

Nobbynumbnuts
16-03-2010, 11:54
No never cheated. Because of my lifestyle I've never really believed any of my relationships were going to last forever but I hope we can all look back at them as good times and for me that includes being faithful.

Waiting for it to fizzle out is easiest but knowing when and how to end a relationship is best. Being dumped is horrible even when you're not that into the relationship, hurts the ego.

I don't mean to hijack your thread but it's very interesting you mention your time in a Thai prison for visa violations
I was living in Bangkok up until a couple of months ago. While there i met an American woman in my local pub one evening who organises trips to the place you are talking about. I decided to go for the experience.
If it's the one in Bangkok, it's located behind the immigration department on Soi Suan Phlu.
We were a group of about 8 people. We were not allowed inside the facility it's self only into the visiting area and separated from the inmates by two rows of fencing. One of the main reasons for going was to allow families to who were kept separate inside see each other. Husbands and wives, mothers and children were kept apart and not allowed to see each other. Each visitor asks to see a different family member then they are allowed out to the visiting area together and meet and talk Many were just refugees. Thailand does not recognise refugees. We also took food.
Many had been there for years, simply for visa violations. The conditions were terrible.

Enjoy your time in the hot seat.

dontcallme
16-03-2010, 14:11
I don't mean to hijack your thread but it's very interesting you mention your time in a Thai prison for visa violations
I was living in Bangkok up until a couple of months ago. While there i met an American woman in my local pub one evening who organises trips to the place you are talking about. I decided to go for the experience.
If it's the one in Bangkok, it's located behind the immigration department on Soi Suan Phlu.
We were a group of about 8 people. We were not allowed inside the facility it's self only into the visiting area and separated from the inmates by two rows of fencing. One of the main reasons for going was to allow families to who were kept separate inside see each other. Husbands and wives, mothers and children were kept apart and not allowed to see each other. Each visitor asks to see a different family member then they are allowed out to the visiting area together and meet and talk Many were just refugees. Thailand does not recognise refugees. We also took food.
Many had been there for years, simply for visa violations. The conditions were terrible.

Enjoy your time in the hot seat.

I was in prison in Krabi which is a town in the south. That's why there were no other non-Asians. I've read books and I spoke to others about the prisons in Bangkok and it is certainly very grim to say the least. The conditions in Krabi were poor and very overcrowded but safe and most of the people were nice enough so it was uncomfortable but not a "my holiday in hell" story.

MissAnnElk
16-03-2010, 14:27
Isn't Krabi near Phuket?

(I was there in 1987, so my memory may be a bit off . . .)

dontcallme
16-03-2010, 14:30
Isn't Krabi near Phuket?

(I was there in 1987, so my memory may be a bit off . . .)

Yes. It is a small, port town in the south west. Most people go there to get a boat to one of the popular islands like Phuket, Phi Phi and Riley.

shurale
17-03-2010, 19:46
Dontcallme,
what is your pet hate?

tvadim133
17-03-2010, 20:05
In what countries have you been to, besides?

What places in the world did you like most of all and dilslike most of all?

What is your pefect or ideal place of living (a flat, a house, disign must be, colour)?

Bels
17-03-2010, 20:36
Thank you for a brilliant thread on the hotseat. I can see it is brilliant thread due the number of thanlks you have received. You have been extremely honest.

Now I know you have quite to cover yet, but I will be interested to know of who you are going to ask next to be on the hotseat, and will your fist choice accept?

xSnoofovich
17-03-2010, 21:12
Are you ready for spring?

AndreyS
17-03-2010, 21:21
Are you ready for spring?

What do you mean? LOL

dontcallme
17-03-2010, 21:22
Dontcallme,
what is your pet hate?

I don't like when people order/cook a lot of food and then barely touch it. It's only a minor pet hate though as I'm usually more than happy to finish it off.


In what countries have you been to, besides?

What places in the world did you like most of all and dilslike most of all?

What is your pefect or ideal place of living (a flat, a house, disign must be, colour)?

I spent a year in Australia, some time in New Zealand, Thailand, Laos, Vietnam, Cambodia, Malaysia, Singapore, Indonesia, Nepal, India and I've had holidays and short trips in many countries in Europe.

Thailand is special to me as it is the first country I independently travelled around. It doesn't matter what kind of character you are there is a place in Thailand where you can enjoy yourself.

I disliked Vietnam the most. When I was there the locals just seemed to hate us and not want us there. I was robbed twice and had people starting fights with me for no reason at all, my Australian friend was slashed with a knife and it was a very unpleasant place to visit. I've been told that they are much more receptive to tourists now though.

I like living in flatshares as long as the people have a similar attitude to life as myself and respect the other flat mates. I'm not interested in design and would prefer a place of convenience to a place of luxury.


Thank you for a brilliant thread on the hotseat. I can see it is brilliant thread due the number of thanlks you have received. You have been extremely honest.

Now I know you have quite to cover yet, but I will be interested to know of who you are going to ask next to be on the hotseat, and will your fist choice accept?

Thanks, I think the Hot Seat is a great idea and for it to work the person in the Hot Seat needs to give honest answers rather than make jokes. It's a great place to find out about someones life, opinions etc.

I guess my week is coming to an end so if anyone has anymore questions they'd like to ask they had better ask quite soon. I haven't thought about who to ask to be next yet. If anyone wants to be in the Hot Seat next week send me a PM, if I receive no PM's then I'll ask someone who I think will be interesting.

dontcallme
17-03-2010, 21:23
Are you ready for spring?

In what way? I've been looking forward to the end of winter for a long time now.

xSnoofovich
17-03-2010, 21:26
At the end of your post in Russia-
What will you miss the most?

dontcallme
17-03-2010, 21:33
At the end of your post in Russia-
What will you miss the most?

I think I'll miss my job the most. I've never had a job before where I always have a smile on my face and talk about regularly with enthusiasm. I'm sure there are things that I'll look back on and miss but often it's the little things that barely cross your mind when you are experiencing it.

Bels
17-03-2010, 21:37
A good answer to my post. And a good post in general. I wish I had thought about someone contacting me by pm first, and then making my own choice. So good idea. See requests from PMs first, and then make your choice. Good post and good thread.


I don't like when people order/cook a lot of food and then barely touch it. It's only a minor pet hate though as I'm usually more than happy to finish it off.



I spent a year in Australia, some time in New Zealand, Thailand, Laos, Vietnam, Cambodia, Malaysia, Singapore, Indonesia, Nepal, India and I've had holidays and short trips in many countries in Europe.

Thailand is special to me as it is the first country I independently travelled around. It doesn't matter what kind of character you are there is a place in Thailand where you can enjoy yourself.

I disliked Vietnam the most. When I was there the locals just seemed to hate us and not want us there. I was robbed twice and had people starting fights with me for no reason at all, my Australian friend was slashed with a knife and it was a very unpleasant place to visit. I've been told that they are much more receptive to tourists now though.

I like living in flatshares as long as the people have a similar attitude to life as myself and respect the other flat mates. I'm not interested in design and would prefer a place of convenience to a place of luxury.



Thanks, I think the Hot Seat is a great idea and for it to work the person in the Hot Seat needs to give honest answers rather than make jokes. It's a great place to find out about someones life, opinions etc.

I guess my week is coming to an end so if anyone has anymore questions they'd like to ask they had better ask quite soon. I haven't thought about who to ask to be next yet. If anyone wants to be in the Hot Seat next week send me a PM, if I receive no PM's then I'll ask someone who I think will be interesting.

shurale
18-03-2010, 01:41
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When in my teens and early 20's I did a lo of aimless backpacking but sic

1) Please tell about that aimless backpacking.
2) Do you use the 'Russian' knot on your students?
3) Are you a sore loser?

dontcallme
18-03-2010, 11:27
1) Please tell about that aimless backpacking.
2) Do you use the 'Russian' knot on your students?
3) Are you a sore loser?

1) So much to say that I need a more specific question. I think it's one of the most worthwhile experiences anyone can have. I learnt how to be independent, how to work for what I wanted, how to deal with difficult situations and how to assert myself in situations when it is easier to be passive.
2) By Russian knot I assume you are talking about "banning Russian" while in class. If I'm wrong I apoogise. I don't apply it completely. If a student doesn't understand something and another student gives a quick definition in Russian I'm fine with that but I always make someone explain it in English to make sure they haven't all misunderstood. Sometimes I translate into Russian which always gets a laugh and can lighten the mood when the subject gets difficult.
3) As a kid yes. Now I am while playing tennis but as soon as the game has finished I don't mind whether I won or not. Sometimes the energy and concentration put into a game can get me frustrated but it's always quickly forgotten.

xSnoofovich
18-03-2010, 11:56
How did you find Expat.Ru?

xSnoofovich
18-03-2010, 11:56
What advice would you give to potential teachers that are looking to come to Russia?

dontcallme
18-03-2010, 18:22
How did you find Expat.Ru?

The production manager recommended the site when I first got here.


What advice would you give to potential teachers that are looking to come to Russia?

First I'd advise potential teachers to find sites like this and ask for recommendations for books which are aimed at the people they'll be teaching i.e businessmen, kids etc.

Second I would advise them to try and get some experience before they get here. Maybe find a student and offer 2 months of free classes twice a week in return for honest feedback.

If you are unsure of the school that has offered you employment I'd come on here and ask about the schools reputation.

Arrange suitable accomodation as soon as you can as the Russian landlady experience can be very hard for a westerner to handle.

Bels
18-03-2010, 23:10
Would you not advise the newbies to first get a qualification such as Celta. or what would be recognised in Russia. Would you not advise them to first consider the companies of who will give you an interview in your home country, possibly a phone interview. And offer you the full package of travel costs, health care, flat? Shared or not. And generally take care of you as a full package, Now for me that is what I would advise for newbies. They can progress from there if they so desire. But get the deal from your home country! And you will get the better deal. Ask within Moscow, and you will get less. Of course they are very happy with you if you are legal, and have somewhere to live, it makes it much easier for them. Give them a hard time , to get a better deal. They give more if you are in your home country. Only two schools I know worth mentioning. BKC and Language Link. No they won't give you middle class status. But due to the full package they offer, they probably give more than anywhere in Moscow.

But you will have the minimum rate to spend in Moscow, and your necessary costs will be covered. But don't expect big savings.The income is about on survival leval only. A working holiday, and that is the omly way you can see it. Simply a cheap way to experience Moscow. That's it. But you will probably end up working very hard.


The production manager recommended the site when I first got here.



First I'd advise potential teachers to find sites like this and ask for recommendations for books which are aimed at the people they'll be teaching i.e businessmen, kids etc.

Second I would advise them to try and get some experience before they get here. Maybe find a student and offer 2 months of free classes twice a week in return for honest feedback.

If you are unsure of the school that has offered you employment I'd come on here and ask about the schools reputation.

Arrange suitable accomodation as soon as you can as the Russian landlady experience can be very hard for a westerner to handle.

Bels
18-03-2010, 23:21
Of course there are many suppliers of such books. Try personlongman.com
From there you will find longman.ru to help you find the suppliers, The books are very usefull in starting up. You should get the catalogue somehow. You need such books when starting up. And if you are a beginner, you have a long way to go. But don't worry, many of us strted that way. If you are serious you wil make it.


The production manager recommended the site when I first got here.



First I'd advise potential teachers to find sites like this and ask for recommendations for books which are aimed at the people they'll be teaching i.e businessmen, kids etc.

Second I would advise them to try and get some experience before they get here. Maybe find a student and offer 2 months of free classes twice a week in return for honest feedback.

If you are unsure of the school that has offered you employment I'd come on here and ask about the schools reputation.

Arrange suitable accomodation as soon as you can as the Russian landlady experience can be very hard for a westerner to handle.

shurale
20-03-2010, 23:33
Have you ever had more than one girlfriend at the same time?

Bels
20-03-2010, 23:50
Err! That depends on how old he is. Of course many of us had, whenin teens or early twenties. So easy answer.


Have you ever had more than one girlfriend at the same time?

tvadim133
20-03-2010, 23:54
Let's waite how Dontallme answers the question, because the question was asked to him. :) :) :)

Bels
20-03-2010, 23:57
Nothing wrong with a guess, to see if I was wrong. With al due respect I know he is in the hotseat. And can't wait to find out who choses for the next hotseat.


Let's waite how Dontallme answers the question, because the question was asked to him. :) :) :)

shurale
21-03-2010, 11:47
1. How old are you? (you may have told that but pls tell again)
2. When do you plan to marry? After you reach a certain age or after you build successful business... Or after your GF will tell you that she is pregnant?

dontcallme
21-03-2010, 12:09
Have you ever had more than one girlfriend at the same time?

No, I've honestly never seen the need to treat someone like that.


Nothing wrong with a guess, to see if I was wrong. With al due respect I know he is in the hotseat. And can't wait to find out who choses for the next hotseat.

I've sent one person a PM and they rejected. I won't name who I ask as I don't want to pressure anyone. I'll PM a couple of people today and if they refuse I'll leave it up to a Mod to find a replacement.


1. How old are you? (you may have told that but pls tell again)
2. When do you plan to marry? After you reach a certain age or after you build successful business... Or after your GF will tell you that she is pregnant?

I'm 28.
My idea is when I find the right person. When you're with the right people (relationship/friends etc) all of a sudden things like money don't matter as much. In the UK there is no pressure to get married if you get a girl pregnant so i can't see that being a factor.

eyecandy
21-03-2010, 20:03
What is you hobby/hobbies?

What do you prefer: to ask or to be asked out on a date? What will you do if a woman who you like but not that much asks you out on a date?
Do you like to lead in relationships? Or when a woman leads?
How will you understand that she is a right person?
Do you like sex?
Sex with a person who you don't really like - is it a good idea? Do you need to be in love with a woman so that to have sex with her?
What will you do if it occurs that a woman who you realy like wasn't fully faithful with you?

shurale
21-03-2010, 20:58
1. What do you like to talk about with your (advanced lvl) students?
2. How long have you been a teacher?
3. How long do you plan to teach? What would you like to change it for?
4. How do you explaing 'embarrassing' to your students? 'Boring'?
5. What was your worst disappointment in life?
6. Do you vote?
7. Do you always prepare your lessons? Do you ever half-arse your lessons?
8. What song(s) do you like to use in the classroom?
9. Your favorite textbook?
10. Do you make your students do their homework? How?
11. Your favourite Russian word (phrase, expression)
12. How about games in the classroom.... what do you like to use?

Bels
21-03-2010, 21:12
Some members here are different from others. I guess you might know the ones who might accept. My suggestion is ask them here, but not the shy ones. They can only say no, like they did with me. But you accepted, and may I say you have had a successful thread, and should encourage others to also have a successful thread. In fact those you say yes? I think they will feel proud that they have been respectfully known here. Give it a try.


No, I've honestly never seen the need to treat someone like that.



I've sent one person a PM and they rejected. I won't name who I ask as I don't want to pressure anyone. I'll PM a couple of people today and if they refuse I'll leave it up to a Mod to find a replacement.



I'm 28.
My idea is when I find the right person. When you're with the right people (relationship/friends etc) all of a sudden things like money don't matter as much. In the UK there is no pressure to get married if you get a girl pregnant so i can't see that being a factor.

dontcallme
21-03-2010, 22:25
What is you hobby/hobbies?

What do you prefer: to ask or to be asked out on a date? What will you do if a woman who you like but not that much asks you out on a date?
Do you like to lead in relationships? Or when a woman leads?
How will you understand that she is a right person?
Do you like sex?
Sex with a person who you don't really like - is it a good idea? Do you need to be in love with a woman so that to have sex with her?
What will you do if it occurs that a woman who you realy like wasn't fully faithful with you?

I like playing sports, especially football, tennis, squash, volleyball and badminton.
I don't really like dating. I find them artificial and structured. I prefer to be in a large group of people like in a bar, out with a group of friends etc and let an attraction happen naturally.
I'm too lazy to lead but I like it to be even, I hate power struggles.
I always know I've found someone special when everything becomes simple. Conversation is fun and easy and I never worry about saying the right thing or feel unsure whether she likes me or not. It's like there's an unspoken connection and all the conversations about dating, how to attract someone etc start to sound like the most ridiculous things in the world.
Yes I do like sex.
It can be. Sex can be a lot of things. Love, lust etc so being with someone who you don't feel anything special for is fine as long as you aren't being false with them. You definitely don't need to be in love with someone to have sex with them in my opinion.
If she's not faithful then it's over, simple as that even if ending the relationship is difficult.



1. What do you like to talk about with your (advanced lvl) students?
2. How long have you been a teacher?
3. How long do you plan to teach? What would you like to change it for?
4. How do you explaing 'embarrassing' to your students? 'Boring'?
5. What was your worst disappointment in life?
6. Do you vote?
7. Do you always prepare your lessons? Do you ever half-arse your lessons?
8. What song(s) do you like to use in the classroom?
9. Your favorite textbook?
10. Do you make your students do their homework? How?
11. Your favourite Russian word (phrase, expression)
12. How about games in the classroom.... what do you like to use?

I like to find out about their interests and base the conversation on what I think will be interesting for them. This can vary from British news stories to history to almost anything.
I've been teaching in Moscow for 18 months and before that I taught voluntarily for a while in Indonesia and some part time in London to get experience.
I don't know how long I will continue to teach for. I will finish my contract here in the summer and start my degree in September. I plan to find private students and do summer school work to help me to pay for my studies. After that I guess I'll have to see.
I give a basic meaning to words like embarassing and boring and then put them into a context. I then ask my students to put them into their own sentence to make sure they understand.
My biggest disappointment in life was finding out the insecurities, games and everything involved in being a teenager is still a major part of adult life.
I vote sometimes but I can't say I have enough knowledge to vote for the right party.
Because I teach very small classes they are very conversation based and I need to be prepared for the unexpected as sometimes the students ask very unexpected questions, if I plan too closely it becomes dull for the students. I prepare as much as I feel is necessary.
I sometimes use slow songs from artists like Damien Rice in my classes.
I don't have a favourite textbook and I prefer to take different sections form different books to suit what I think will be most appropriate.
I don't make my students do their homework. Most of my students are adults in full-time jobs and have families. I give them homework and make it clear that it is necessary to help them achieve their goals but if they don't do it then I have to accept that.
I don't know much Russian but the lady down the market often says she likes me in Russian and then gives me a big hug which is a nice way to finish buying my fruit and veg.
I don't really play games in the classroom. I hope I'm entertaining enough to keep my students interested and can usually crack a few jokes to keep the right mood when transitioning from one part of the lesson to the next.



Some members here are different from others. I guess you might know the ones who might accept. My suggestion is ask them here, but not the shy ones. They can only say no, like they did with me. But you accepted, and may I say you have had a successful thread, and should encourage others to also have a successful thread. In fact those you say yes? I think they will feel proud that they have been respectfully known here. Give it a try.

I think TD said in his rules that he wants whoever is in the Hot Seat to ask by PM, I've done that to 2 members now. One has refused and the other hasn't replied yet. If I don't find someone by tomorrow then I'll put it into the hands of the Mods.

If anyone would like to have a week in the Hot Seat please let me know by either responding here or to my PM.

TD
21-03-2010, 23:31
My suggestion is ask them here, but not the shy ones. They can only say no, like they did with me. But you accepted, and may I say you have had a successful thread, and should encourage others to also have a successful thread

I honestly don't think that putting someone on the spot publicly is going to have a better effect than asking privately - it is more likely to create a debate over whether the person(s) in question should/should not accept and end up steering the thread off topic.

If you have any more ideas about the rules of this forum, please post them in the "Hotseat Guidelines (http://www.expat.ru/forum/showthread.php?t=190562)" thread :-)

robertmf
21-03-2010, 23:39
I honestly don't think that putting someone on the spot publicly is going to have a better effect than asking privately - it is more likely to create a debate over whether the person(s) in question should/should not accept and end up steering the thread off topic.

If you have any more ideas about the rules of this forum, please post them in the "Hotseat Guidelines (http://www.expat.ru/forum/showthread.php?t=190562)" thread :-)

In practice, what exactly is "the hot seat" :question: Does it have anything to do with getting put into Florida's notorious "Old Sparky" electric chair ?

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TD
22-03-2010, 00:00
In practice, what exactly is "the hot seat" :question:

It was a TV show a long time ago where couples took turns on a "Hot Seat" getting asked (usually embarrassing) questions.

There have been a number of variations over the years. Here's an example:

YouTube- Miami HEAT Hot Seat - Dancer Karelix

farsideofthelune
22-03-2010, 11:17
When in my teens and early 20's I did a lo of aimless backpacking but I couldn't live this lifestyle forever so I went back to England to work and educate myself better. After feeling a bit bored and stuck in my job I decided I needed a new experience. Russia is an unknown mystery to myself and many other Brits so I guess I came here out of curiosity more than anything else.

ah, little hobbity hobbitses. I thought the farthest you can go is Tchekoslovakia!

J.D.
22-03-2010, 12:39
I honestly don't think that putting someone on the spot publicly is going to have a better effect than asking privately - it is more likely to create a debate over whether the person(s) in question should/should not accept and end up steering the thread off topic.
:-)

Now it's clear. TD was the one you PM'd and he refused.

dontcallme
22-03-2010, 17:52
Well that's the end of my time in the Hot Seat. Thanks to everyone for asking a nice range of questions and hopefully my honesty kept the thread interesting for a week.

I asked two people to be in the Hot Seat but had no joy finding someone so TD has found a willing participant.