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dlc7474
12-10-2009, 01:03
I am supposed to be getting married to a russian woman in about two months. Is it different from being married to an american woman? is there any traps to watch out for or things that we dont think of in the west that they do in russia?

pjw
12-10-2009, 01:46
Good question.
Do U mind if I ask U some personal questions dlc? How long have U guys known eachother? Have U ever been to Russia? Are U guys thinking of coming over here? My personal take on the matter is that it depends on the individual and we can't say Russian girls this, American girls that, but perhaps some others maybe have some more interesting relevant info for U on the topic. Good luck in any relationship. I think we fit with our partners not related to their nationality. How do U guys generally get along? Where did U meet? Do you see alot of eachother? Is there something that is worrying U that U'd like to share? I mean do U think that she's different to other girls that U've been going with before? See U buddy.

Notelina
12-10-2009, 01:50
Dear dlc7474,

Nobody can answer to u! Every woman is special ! What r u planning to get to know here? U have a gf, and i guess u know her better than anybody else.
One of russian women could be a perfect wife, mother and lover. Other - the worst in the world... It is the relations between man and woman. Impossible to divine what will be in the future...
Other men's experience cant to warn you
against mistakes, troubles and traps! Doesnt matter if she russian or not.

This is my point of view.

I wish u love and mutual understanding with her :)

Best wishes,
Elena

tvadim133
12-10-2009, 02:09
Hi! Congratulation!

I can compare Russian women and European only (my knowledge on american women are only from "Sex in the City").

But as for Russian women, I do not see a lot of differences but (ladies, correct me if I am mistaken):

1. Russians like taking care of husbands (like mothers): food, clothes, comfort e.t.c. sometimes too much, but you must appreciate it and show how you love her (including for that);

2. Russians hate when husbands are stingy and you should be sometimes light-minded, show off e.t.c. and then your wife will insist not doing that in future with "Hunny! Your are so fantastic. but next birthday, there is not need to buy a new fur coat for me. I do like mine still." But she will get to know, you love her. Be kind with unexpected gifts sometimes.

Be sure, that your wife will be careful with your money very soon (but not first 6 (7,8) months);

3. R. like when husbands are gentlemen (not matter, you are or you are not for high society).
to let her enter the door first; to help to put on the coat; to open the door of the car are must. You show, how you love her and take care of her.

4. Russians should feel that you are her protection always (a father). There is a proverb "to feel like at the stony wall". It does not mean that your wife is weak and sometimes it will be she who will fight for you and will be ready to be your body guard (a mother) but you need to show, you love her.

5. Russian take care of their exterior and you should mention that "today you are fantastic; This dress is so nice when you put it on". No matter Yellow and Green are not her colours. And you should "insist" on her attending hairdresser's at any convinient for her time. You will show how much you love her.

6. Be sometimes "weak", "cry at her shoulder", that you are depressed e.t.c. (not with her of course), that will give you a chance to show her that you need only her. She is your mother, and you love only her

You know some points are in conflict with each other but that is the life!

To be serious, just love her and take care of her!

tvadim133
12-10-2009, 14:54
Just to add:

7/Russians hate when husbands drink (it seems to me, it become on genetic level, that russian wives are afraid of it).

Remington
12-10-2009, 15:46
Russian women can be good with money but some of them can be gold diggers. Only you will know that. If she says.. "Hon.. can you buy me $1,000 fur mink coat, car or house." then you'll know she's up to something no good.

Some of them are looking for serious relationship, green card or money. Only you will know that especially if you have dated her for a long time. Just be careful and use your commonsense. You have nothing to worry if you really love her and she loves you wholeheartly.

Best of luck.

OlgaT
12-10-2009, 15:47
Just to add:

7/Russians hate when husbands drink.
Especially when they drink without us! :evilgrin:

OlgaT
12-10-2009, 15:54
And I think this topic has already been discussed at least twice...

Russian wives or foreign husbands. Part I (http://www.expat.ru/forum/expat-cafe/169389-russian-wives-foreign-husbands.html)

Russian wives of foreign husbands. Part II (http://www.expat.ru/forum/expat-cafe/172797-russian-wives-foreign-husbands.html)

Viola
12-10-2009, 23:05
I am supposed to be getting a Somalian citizenship in about two years and getting married to an Unangan in about twenty years. Is it different from being married to a russian man? is there any traps to watch out for or things that we dont think of in Russia that they do in Aleutian Islands?

pjw
12-10-2009, 23:09
Sounds interesting Viola.;) What happened 2 U in the Aleutian Islands:question:

Rhubard Geoff
12-10-2009, 23:10
Russian women can be good with money but some of them can be gold diggers. Only you will know that. If she says.. "Hon.. can you buy me $1,000 fur mink coat, car or house." then you'll know she's up to something no good.



Could you please share with me where the $1,000 mink coats are available, or did you miss off a zero?

GaNozri
12-10-2009, 23:12
Dude, you're not ready to get married. Period.

Viola
12-10-2009, 23:15
Sounds interesting Viola.;) What happened 2 U in the Aleutian Islands:question:

Pete, I haven't been there yet, its my strategic plan lol

Viola
12-10-2009, 23:17
Could you please share with me where the $1,000 mink coats are available, or did you miss off a zero?

Better not ask if you like cats :vampire:

GaNozri
12-10-2009, 23:19
Could you please share with me where the $1,000 mink coats are available, or did you miss off a zero?

At Cherkizon. Semi-mink (half rat-half rabbit) chinese made. You're a bit late, they closed it down.

Bels
12-10-2009, 23:23
I am supposed to be getting married to a russian woman in about two months. Is it different from being married to an american woman? is there any traps to watch out for or things that we dont think of in the west that they do in russia?

Dic! I don't think you are in slightest bit serious. Being married to a Russian woman you wouldn't even ask. It's knowing the person you met. If you had worded it more with more passion I might start being convinced.

Sorry but you don't fool me and you are not ready to get married whether she's Russian, British, Chinese or whatever. Who are you trying to kid? Some dumb blond?

Grumpygummy
13-10-2009, 01:57
Russian women can be good with money but some of them can be gold diggers. Only you will know that. If she says.. "Hon.. can you buy me $1,000 fur mink coat..." then you'll know she's up to something no good.


Guys, your info is out of date. You cannot buy a decent mink fur coat at $1,000 any more. Be ready to pay at least twice than that!

Notelina
13-10-2009, 02:09
dic! I don't think you are in slightest bit serious. Being married to a russian woman you wouldn't even ask. It's knowing the person you met. If you had worded it more with more passion i might start being convinced.

Sorry but you don't fool me and you are not ready to get married whether she's russian, british, chinese or whatever. Who are you trying to kid? Some dumb blond?

+1

Remington
13-10-2009, 02:38
Guys, your info is out of date. You cannot buy a decent mink fur coat at $1,000 any more. Be ready to pay at least twice than that!

Sure you can find rock bottom price at indoor rhinook near m.Mar'ino. Unless you were spending way too much time at upscale shopping plazas where price can fetch up to $2,000 or more... shopping plaza at Kievskaya will burn a big hole in your wallet. :D

GaNozri
13-10-2009, 02:53
There is not a mink born, which costs $1000, unless it is a rat.

vmotz2656
13-10-2009, 14:28
Making a Russian woman happy takes a great deal of cultural understanding, and money.

Moskauerin
13-10-2009, 16:16
Making a Russian woman happy takes a great deal of cultural understanding, and money.

It's just a matter of taking proper care, like with any other person. We all require understanding (not only cultural) and some investments (not only financial), don't we? I mean both men and women.

kapione
13-10-2009, 18:24
I have a Russian wife .... there are good women everywhere in the world , and there are bad women here in Russia and elsewhere in the world, My wife can be stubborn at times, but so am I...she has her opinion so do I...But I know neither of us are perfect because we are human beings, and humans are a flawed animal...But I know we do love each other,and our beautiful daughter Snezhana

Men becareful of the Bad money hungry Russian ladies

advice for the overwhelming majority of wonderful Russian ladies out there on Expat.ru
becareful of many of the sneaky Western men that will just use you for sex, any good +decent guy will want you if you are kind,loving be there for him, but make him earn your trust.... if he does this be happy...have a good life ,be good to each other

lanco
13-10-2009, 20:03
I am supposed to be getting married to a russian woman in about two months. Is it different from being married to an american woman? is there any traps to watch out for or things that we dont think of in the west that they do in russia?

Definitely. Russian women are much more beautiful.

kapione
13-10-2009, 21:05
Definitely. Russian women are much more beautiful.

a blind man could see this ;-)

Grumpygummy
14-10-2009, 02:28
There is not a mink born, which costs $1000, unless it is a rat.


Or it would more likely be a trimmed rabbit. :10301:

texhou
15-10-2009, 14:41
My Russian wife and I have been married 10 years. It's been pretty good except when I've done something she doesn't like. Then it's more like being invited to come by and have coffee with the KGB.

GaNozri
15-10-2009, 14:43
My Russian wife and I have been married 10 years. It's been pretty good except when I've done something she doesn't like. Then it's more like being invited to come by and have coffee with the KGB.

Does she use sleep deprivation on you? I hate that!

texhou
15-10-2009, 14:46
No sleep deprivation unless I'm doing something she likes ;)

SV1973a
15-10-2009, 15:58
Does she use sleep deprivation on you? I hate that!

Mine does! It is horrible! But she can not brake my will power.

gek roken
03-02-2010, 18:05
Especially when they drink without us! :evilgrin:

more likely ))
i dont mind if he drinks, i mind if doesnt do anything else

i think if u haven't mentioned any differences for now, u probably wont see them in future.

be happy

Tasmania
03-02-2010, 19:14
Just wanted to mention that the average divorce rate in Western Europe and the Anglo-Saxon countries (that's English-speaking countries to you!) is 50%.
What does this mean? It means that if you get married, then there is a 50% probability that you will be divorced five years down the road.
Depressing? Pessimistic? NO! Just STATISTICS!

Bels
03-02-2010, 22:10
Russian women can be good with money but some of them can be gold diggers. Only you will know that. If she says.. "Hon.. can you buy me $1,000 fur mink coat, car or house." then you'll know she's up to something no good.

Some of them are looking for serious relationship, green card or money. Only you will know that especially if you have dated her for a long time. Just be careful and use your commonsense. You have nothing to worry if you really love her and she loves you wholeheartly.

Best of luck.

I'm sorry but haven't met a n ordinary everyday Russian woman Russian in a fabricated manner. To be honest I don't you have the experience to know what you are talking about, except reading fabricated crap, often from silly individuals from USA who who have been fooled by a minority of dating agencies and Russian women. And I do say a minority of Russian women.

But yes they seek men in the same manner as any other cultural country, and they are no different. They want the same life as any other woman in the world,

But yes I do feel when you do meet your real Russian woman, she is more caring, and can be extremely jealous of other women. Even though you you might deserve it. They visualise attention that other women are curious about you for exmple that you are native speaking English. Just because they are curious about your language, doesn't mean they fancy you, and are a threat to the woman you are with.

But hey, hey! Doesn't her jealosy make you feel good, like a man, don't worry as you will soon get fed up with it. As they sometimes get over protective, and doesn't make you feel like a man.

spmoscow
03-02-2010, 22:57
Dear dlc7474,

Nobody can answer to u! Every woman is special ! What r u planning to get to know here? U have a gf, and i guess u know her better than anybody else.
One of russian women could be a perfect wife, mother and lover. Other - the worst in the world... It is the relations between man and woman. Impossible to divine what will be in the future...
Other men's experience cant to warn you
against mistakes, troubles and traps! Doesnt matter if she russian or not.

This is my point of view.

I wish u love and mutual understanding with her :)

Best wishes,
Elena

you can be a good psychotherapist:thumbsup:by the way good points!

spmoscow
03-02-2010, 23:04
+1
+2

boya
18-02-2010, 10:17
if u love her.. go for it..
if u doubt about marrying her juz wait for a while..
make your best decision coz u are going to share almost everything with her..
but for me, some russian girl are nice :mml:especially who can speaks english...

Saratoviar
18-02-2010, 12:11
Hello ,

I find it a little strange that u ask this question.

I thought people got married when they love eachother .
In your case i would wait untill u know the russian way of life and your wife a little better .

Anyway , take care and be wise .

btw .

My wife is proud , stubbern and very in love with russia .

But she is really the love of my life .

Esceptica
18-02-2010, 16:32
I am supposed to be getting married to a russian woman in about two months. Is it different from being married to an american woman? is there any traps to watch out for or things that we dont think of in the west that they do in russia?

Gee… As if marrying a Russian girl is like marrying an alien…
Are we really that different from the rest of the world?!?!?

AndreyS
18-02-2010, 16:34
Gee… As if marrying a Russian girl is like marrying an alien…
Are we really that different from the rest of the world?!?!?

In fact, we are! LOL

Esceptica
18-02-2010, 16:38
In fact, we are! LOL

Why is that, I wonder? :)

AndreyS
18-02-2010, 16:47
Why is that, I wonder? :)

I don't know why. It's just how we look in the eyes of the rest of the world. I don't see any bad in it btw. ;-)

Esceptica
18-02-2010, 16:57
I don't see any bad in it btw. ;-)

Really? ;) How about the vodka-mishka-balalaika thing?!

AndreyS
18-02-2010, 17:01
Really? ;) How about the vodka-mishka-balalaika thing?!

I love it! Would you like me to post a balalaika video from youtube? Or you do it yourself?

Viola
18-02-2010, 17:01
Really? ;) How about the vodka-mishka-balalaika thing?!

Don't forget branchy cranberry :D

Viola
18-02-2010, 17:03
Andrey, do you have eyesight problem today?

Viola
18-02-2010, 17:04
I don't know why. It's just how we look in the eyes of the rest of the world. I don't see any bad in it btw. ;-)

I agree with you, it's good, otherwise it would be boring.

AndreyS
18-02-2010, 17:39
Andrey, do you have eyesight problem today?

I feel like having to use the largest font on this thread! Just a whim! Why not? I won't have to pay for this my little caprice (hopefully). And, strangely enough, doesn't it look more convincing when printed with this font? ;-)

Viola
18-02-2010, 17:44
doesn't it look more convincing when printed with this font? ;-)

Oh,yes! :bowdown::bowdown::bowdown:

nbogaard
18-02-2010, 17:51
I feel like having to use the largest font on this thread! Just a whim! Why not? I won't have to pay for this my little caprice (hopefully). And, strangely enough, doesn't it look more convincing when printed with this font? ;-)

It certainly looks loud!!!

AndreyS
18-02-2010, 17:52
It certainly looks loud!!!
Sorry for disturbing, mate. I already stopped it.

AndreyS
18-02-2010, 20:15
How about the vodka-mishka-balalaika thing?!

Get it! A Siberian hill-billy playing balalaika! Good for him!
YouTube- Nike balalaika music

Vadim
18-02-2010, 21:30
is there any traps

Marriage is a huge trap itself mate... It's too late to watch out once already in there.

is4fun
18-02-2010, 21:44
I think you have to buy her a mink or sable coat every year, don't you? Women in Russia like to keep up with the Jones'-ovs. LOL If the neighbor has a little dog that fits in her purse I would think your wife will demand one also.

Bels
18-02-2010, 23:19
I thought we were talking about being married to a Russian woman, I have been married to one for more than five years, and I am not married to one that wants a mink coat. In fact she knew I wasn't rich. All she wants is a life without being pestered by government and local wanting most of the meney that we do earn. All we we want is to be left alone to progress in our life, and enjoy our life for love, and work for our future. But will they leave us alone? No they won't. Tedious visits non-stop! And do the Russians themselves have it any easier? No they don't. Try registering for your passport/ Try registering your child and getting their passport! Civil seravants stink here! They don't see themselves as servnts to to civilians! They see themselves as money grabbers, and their argument is that they are lousily paid, so they have to resort to illegall tricks such as finding bribes.

Vadim
18-02-2010, 23:47
2 Bels. Congratulations, Bels. You are Russian and married to a proper Russian woman. Do you know when you became one? When started thinking like this about civil servants (just think more why do they behave like this and you will come to an absolute understanding of this fantastic country) Your words are literally what Dostoevsky wrote, and he is a banner of Russian character. We are proper fellow country men Bels from now :-)

Bels
19-02-2010, 00:17
2 Bels. Congratulations, Bels. You are Russian and married to a proper Russian woman. Do you know when you became one? When started thinking like this about civil servants (just think more why do they behave like this and you will come to an absolute understanding of this fantastic country) Your words are literally what Dostoevsky wrote, and he is a banner of Russian character. We are proper fellow country men Bels from now :-)

Thank you vadim. I had to ask my almost 13 year old son what you meant by Dostoevsky, and he expalained to me. Lokks like his his education isn't that bad in many cases. He knew what to say to me, and it was positive, and much appreciated. As on reading about hime later I like him. So Yes. This is what I read, even though I preferred my Russian sons basic explanation.

Here it isas It deserves a read! Fyodor Dostoyevsky - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia@@AMEPARAM@@/wiki/File:Dostoevskij_1872.jpg" class="image"><img alt="" src="http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/5/58/Dostoevskij_1872.jpg/240px-Dostoevskij_1872.jpg"@@AMEPARAM@@commons/thumb/5/58/Dostoevskij_1872.jpg/240px-Dostoevskij_1872.jpg

Vadim
19-02-2010, 03:54
Bels, you must be a very happy father. I didn't know that thirteen year olds can be interested in writers of such a high level! It's a hard reading even for adults. I have never had own kids, but would definitely feel myself the most proud dad talking to a teenager son and enjoying a friendly discussion about Dostoyevsky, really. It's amazing what you've just said! Good parental job.

robertmf
19-02-2010, 17:15
2 Bels. Congratulations, Bels. You are Russian and married to a proper Russian woman. Do you know when you became one? When started thinking like this about civil servants (just think more why do they behave like this and you will come to an absolute understanding of this fantastic country) Your words are literally what Dostoevsky wrote, and he is a banner of Russian character. We are proper fellow country men Bels from now :-)

Have you read, The Inspector by Gogol ?-:mml:

:tgif:

Vadim
19-02-2010, 17:19
Have you read, The Inspector by Gogol ?-:mml:

:tgif:


I did. It's in any school carriculum. Book is great, movie (as usual) is complete rubbish. I did not mean Dostoevsky wrote about it in a novel, no. He was a journalist either, it was written in the Writer's Diary, there is a dedicated chapter when he compares German and Russian civil servants. Lots of fun (sad fun, I mean).

loquacious
21-02-2010, 19:32
I'm writing something in American Russia Observations, http://www.amrusob.blogspot.com about how in many ways Russian women are in my estimation the best anywhere. It will probably make the people back in the States all upset, but the more I consider it, the more I believe it.

I have been married for eleven years and have lived here in SPb ten. American women can be OK but they are more likely to go haywire over little things.

Any ideas about the good and bad of Russian women?:10220:

tasel
21-02-2010, 22:53
It doesn't matter its a Russian women or an American women. Its like a jackpot in the casino if you get a nice women, if not :( don't worry, be happy.

watkinsmx
22-02-2010, 22:48
Russian women are completely different then American woman. Everything is very black and white with Russian women. They will expect you to read their minds and know exactly what is right for a man to do in Russia. Russian women expect you to spend money on them. A lot. They are what Americans call traditional. Man money object, women sex object. And they are the BOSS.
On the other hand they will love you with a passion and loyalty that is just amazing.

valio
04-03-2010, 19:09
good question!:cheerleader:

eplesner
08-09-2010, 13:36
Especially when they drink without us! :evilgrin:

OlgaT is SO right. The depth of this statement (even if I think is was an attempt to be funny) can not be overestimated.

Many Russian women like a glass of beer or wine, or even vodka or spirits in the good company. Waste majority of Russian women who fiddle with foreign men have bad experiences with Russian men+alcohol. They would NOT like to see these experiences repeated with their foreign man.

I am now starting to understand how important this is to them.

Some more experiences on Russian women and drinking : before I met my Russian girlfriend I drank too much, but was not an alcoholic. I have a high-class job, and there was too much expensive wine on working day evenings, too many gift-bottles of tasty spirits that could be enjoyed etc etc. Now I knocked it off, because I could see that it made her sad. During the terrible hot Moscow summer we often had a beer together on the balcony late in the afternoon. But having a beer together is something else.
My alcohol consumption has gone from well above what is healthy to well within what could be considered safe. I have lost weight. My Russian girlfriend (who I love) is happy. I get lost of sex instead of lots of wine. Nice change.

In my native country (Denmark) we have a local variant of vodka called snaps. It is a cultural tradition to drink snaps for breakfast in the weekend. This is NOT a hit with Russian women, and I cut it off after the first attempt.

Once I accidently mixed vodka with Tahir (this green softdrink), just to try. That is NOT good idea, as apparently homeless losers like to mix vodka and Tahir. Elena freaked, and I had to promise never to do that again. Can not be recommended. Now I drink both Tahir and Baikal, and both are good.

Lady Lana
08-09-2010, 15:14
6. Be sometimes "weak", "cry at her shoulder", that you are depressed e.t.c. (not with her of course), that will give you a chance to show her that you need only her. She is your mother, and you love only her

You know some points are in conflict with each other but that is the life!

To be serious, just love her and take care of her!

How very observant of you! I couldn't put it better. Especially about the "stone wall", you took the words out if my mouth. :iagree:
The only point I can disagree with is No6. I would say that Russian women want the men to trust them, to to be able to tell them about anything and ask for advice, but surely not be "weak".

MariaPoli
10-09-2010, 18:07
I think you have to buy her a mink or sable coat every year, don't you? Women in Russia like to keep up with the Jones'-ovs. LOL If the neighbor has a little dog that fits in her purse I would think your wife will demand one also.



And do all English women cook as good as "Bridget Jones"???

If a man is ready for the marriage, he would not ask fairly known people such question after the propposal has been made!!!

Good luck!

Discordance
23-09-2010, 07:42
Just to add:

7/Russians hate when husbands drink (it seems to me, it become on genetic level, that russian wives are afraid of it).

This is a fact.

kharaku
26-09-2010, 09:20
I am supposed to be getting married to a russian woman in about two months. Is it different from being married to an american woman? is there any traps to watch out for or things that we dont think of in the west that they do in russia?

Well, she is always right; and when she's wrong you had better be quiet.

Also All your money is communal money, and anything she makes is some sort of personal bonus to which only she is entitled.

Bels
26-09-2010, 20:35
You won't believe me in how much I agree with you about being married to a Russian woman. Yes they do talk about little things that are not important, yet important to them. Something we have to put up with. Let us move on and progress I say. but that might not work with som women.


I'm writing something in American Russia Observations, http://www.amrusob.blogspot.com about how in many ways Russian women are in my estimation the best anywhere. It will probably make the people back in the States all upset, but the more I consider it, the more I believe it.

I have been married for eleven years and have lived here in SPb ten. American women can be OK but they are more likely to go haywire over little things.

Any ideas about the good and bad of Russian women?:10220:

Bels
26-09-2010, 20:42
This is a fact.

Very true,even if controled carefully. Does it work with Russian men? No it doesn't. Take a walk on a pleasant evening, gardens streets, and watch the Russian men. What you see is Russian life in Moscow. Have you seen car parked in Ria. They are like mini British English pubs. That is their pub, drinking with music blaring. Sorry but pubs have become too expensive for them. Bottles of cheap vodka, bottles of beer. juice, and dried smoked fish and they are happy.

Jangel
26-09-2010, 21:12
i read it all and now i think that we are aliens:):):):)

Bels
26-09-2010, 21:17
Please don't ask about British women, as they are a pain in tha ass. In fact all women are at times. Just hvve them when you want them.

bibi999
27-09-2010, 22:35
Hi! Congratulation!

I can compare Russian women and European only (my knowledge on american women are only from "Sex in the City").

But as for Russian women, I do not see a lot of differences but (ladies, correct me if I am mistaken):

1. Russians like taking care of husbands (like mothers): food, clothes, comfort e.t.c. sometimes too much, but you must appreciate it and show how you love her (including for that);

2. Russians hate when husbands are stingy and you should be sometimes light-minded, show off e.t.c. and then your wife will insist not doing that in future with "Hunny! Your are so fantastic. but next birthday, there is not need to buy a new fur coat for me. I do like mine still." But she will get to know, you love her. Be kind with unexpected gifts sometimes.

Be sure, that your wife will be careful with your money very soon (but not first 6 (7,8) months);

3. R. like when husbands are gentlemen (not matter, you are or you are not for high society).
to let her enter the door first; to help to put on the coat; to open the door of the car are must. You show, how you love her and take care of her.

4. Russians should feel that you are her protection always (a father). There is a proverb "to feel like at the stony wall". It does not mean that your wife is weak and sometimes it will be she who will fight for you and will be ready to be your body guard (a mother) but you need to show, you love her.

5. Russian take care of their exterior and you should mention that "today you are fantastic; This dress is so nice when you put it on". No matter Yellow and Green are not her colours. And you should "insist" on her attending hairdresser's at any convinient for her time. You will show how much you love her.

6. Be sometimes "weak", "cry at her shoulder", that you are depressed e.t.c. (not with her of course), that will give you a chance to show her that you need only her. She is your mother, and you love only her

You know some points are in conflict with each other but that is the life!

To be serious, just love her and take care of her!

Hi,

Thank you for such a detailed and important information about Russian women.

"Just love her and take care of her!" - This is an ideal wish!!!

alouette
27-09-2010, 23:44
Hi,


"Just love her and take care of her!" - This is an ideal wish!!!

Noooo! Too simplistic. Like talking about a pet.

tvadim133
28-09-2010, 00:44
Noooo! Too simplistic. Like talking about a pet.

That is why we call our women "my little cat" sometimes ?

yianni
13-10-2010, 01:28
I love Russian woman, they are like Greeks but alot more relaxed ))

kitastr
13-10-2010, 10:38
There are many mink coats for 1000$, from Greece. I have already bought two.

CatTV
23-03-2011, 23:20
As Russian woman i say that you shoud earn more than she. You should be finance leader and provide her with money. It's our typical expectations.

forsiti
24-03-2011, 00:04
"What's his is theirs, what's hers is HERS!!!" is never funny in any country. It causes lots of problems.

Just like "Shop 'till you drop, spend to the end, buy 'till you die" (always with the money HE brings home, never with the money she brings home. Another receipe for trouble


Well, she is always right; and when she's wrong you had better be quiet.

Also All your money is communal money, and anything she makes is some sort of personal bonus to which only she is entitled.

kharaku
29-03-2011, 15:45
"What's his is theirs, what's hers is HERS!!!" is never funny in any country. It causes lots of problems.

Just like "Shop 'till you drop, spend to the end, buy 'till you die" (always with the money HE brings home, never with the money she brings home. Another receipe for trouble

don't marry a Russian gal then...

forsiti
30-03-2011, 16:07
I never said all Russian women were like that.

Some yes, but you will find some women like that no matter where you go.


don't marry a Russian gal then...

kharaku
30-03-2011, 21:42
I never said all Russian women were like that.

Some yes, but you will find some women like that no matter where you go.
i haven't met one that isn't... i'm not turned off by that atitude personally so i don't mean it insultingly.

the man should pay for the woman, it is normal.

peachblossm
15-04-2011, 00:24
I have been married to a Russian guy now for 13.5 yrs. He has recently move us (me and the kids) back to his place of birth, Moscow.

I can say this, my Russian husband is not and was not raised with a moral compass. He believes there isn't black and white, only grey, therefore he has been cheating on me for the past 4 yrs. He says he doesn't feel bad about it because he doesn't really see it as wrong...most of society...especially here, turns the other cheek and pretends its not happening. I just found out about his little one night stands...thus am now looking for a good lawyer.

Totally been deceived and lied to, to which he says lying isn't wrong either.
I believe a marriage should be built on trust and honesty not lying and deception.

I have come across many Russians who believe lying/bribing/stretching truth/cheating are all ok....?

MickeyTong
15-04-2011, 00:36
Hi Peach

Sorry to hear about all that. I'm sure there are people on this forum who can put you in touch with a good lawyer.

If you haven't done so already, I suggest you get yourself a social network as soon as possible - there are many friendly and supportive people who use this forum and meet in real life for a variety of purposes.

Best wishes, and welcome to expat.ru

AndreyS
15-04-2011, 00:42
I have been married to a Russian guy now for 13.5 yrs. He has recently move us (me and the kids) back to his place of birth, Moscow.

I can say this, my Russian husband is not and was not raised with a moral compass. He believes there isn't black and white, only grey, therefore he has been cheating on me for the past 4 yrs. He says he doesn't feel bad about it because he doesn't really see it as wrong...most of society...especially here, turns the other cheek and pretends its not happening. I just found out about his little one night stands...thus am now looking for a good lawyer.

Totally been deceived and lied to, to which he says lying isn't wrong either.
I believe a marriage should be built on trust and honesty not lying and deception.

I have come across many Russians who believe lying/bribing/stretching truth/cheating are all ok....?
My deepest compassion to you and help you God.

Lying, cheating etc. are definitely not ok. It depends on people.

FatAndy
15-04-2011, 10:27
Not only Russians, but many people of all other natioalities/citizenships of the world beleive all below is OK. It depends only on your own moral principles and those which your parents/relatives/friends/environment put into you.
I have come across many Russians who believe lying/bribing/stretching truth/cheating are all ok....?

xSnoofovich
15-04-2011, 11:13
Not only Russians, but many people of all other natioalities/citizenships of the world beleive all below is OK. It depends only on your own moral principles and those which your parents/relatives/friends/environment put into you.

This !

valeriaLN
15-04-2011, 11:14
oh golly peaches :S I'm sorry it must be horrible to find out that you've been living with a stranger all these years. A cheating husband is something no one has a guarantee against. Ya you can be sure your husband loves you, that he's a devoted father and so on, but that animal instinct is something no wife is protected against. He can be the world's greatest husband but one day this instinct might be too strong for him to fight against. But in your situation, the worst part is that he doesn’t feel guilty for what he's done so it's unlikely he'll stop. I wish you a lot of strength in this difficult time; you'll need it ;)

As for russian women closing their eyes on their husbands infidelity, it's because as was said before, russian women look for husbands who can support them financially, so when their husbands cheat, they find themselves unable to take care of themselves. They dig themselves that grave when they choose to fully depend on their husbands.

xSnoofovich
15-04-2011, 11:38
They dig themselves that grave when they choose to fully depend on their husbands.

Feminazis unite !

valeriaLN
15-04-2011, 11:47
wow wow.... are you saying i'm not right? believe me I'm far from a feminist but I can't help but worry for women that completely depend on their hubbies. It's always healthy for a woman who has a family to still have another life that doesn't involve her husband, that allows her to be independent. otherwise women tend to deteriorate when they completely devote themselves to their families. and BELIEVE me i'm not a feminist. If you saw me you would understand lol

xSnoofovich
15-04-2011, 12:05
If you saw me you would understand lol

what do looks have to do with this?

Willy
15-04-2011, 12:06
oh golly peaches :S I'm sorry it must be horrible to find out that you've been living with a stranger all these years. A cheating husband is something no one has a guarantee against. Ya you can be sure your husband loves you, that he's a devoted father and so on, but that animal instinct is something no wife is protected against. He can be the world's greatest husband but one day this instinct might be too strong for him to fight against. But in your situation, the worst part is that he doesn’t feel guilty for what he's done so it's unlikely he'll stop. I wish you a lot of strength in this difficult time; you'll need it ;)

As for russian women closing their eyes on their husbands infidelity, it's because as was said before, russian women look for husbands who can support them financially, so when their husbands cheat, they find themselves unable to take care of themselves. They dig themselves that grave when they choose to fully depend on their husbands.

Maybe some women just love their husband so much they won't let anything break them up?

I was a good boy for 8 years then had a girlfriend. When my wife found out I stop see my girlfriend and things were even better than before. I felt really bad and tried every way I could to make up for it. Then a few years later my wife started to not trust me again and started to think I was fooling around. I wasn't but I did know I couldn't live like that so I did find a girl and moved in with her. After two months my wife still wanted me back. I left anyway for her own good. Now after I don't remember how many but many girlfriends I found a girl and she wanted to have kids with me so we did. We don't live together because I don't have any money, but we will soon I hope. She doesn't really care if I stay out all night or for days. Gives me my freedom. I really like that and I give her, her freedom too. She says I would be the perfect husband if it weren't for the money thing. Go figure? But you got to love Russian women!

valeriaLN
15-04-2011, 12:45
No no Snoof, I meant if you met me lol. Nothing to do with physical appearance. I believe in women being independent and all but no way do I give the impression of being a feminist.

franzewich
15-04-2011, 12:50
... It's always healthy for a woman who has a family to still have another life that doesn't involve her husband, that allows her to be independent. otherwise women tend to deteriorate when they completely devote themselves to their families....

Sounds strangely familiar. Are you talking about "other activities" which won't involve your husband, or are you really talking about an entire "other life" :question:

valeriaLN
15-04-2011, 12:53
Willy you know I always tell people when they ask me what I want from life... I tell them happiness in whatever form it comes to me in. If you found a woman who loves you for who you are despite financial issues... you both are very lucky. In my opinion, financial matters or what baggage you may carry with you from previous relationships is nothing compared to the love two people have. Call me desperate romantic lol if you want, but I believe there is nothing more valuable and true in this world than love. Everything else is fake and holds no value. When you love, you can be happy living in a box on the street :P obviously I’m over exaggerating, but you get the point. I hope you find that if you haven’t already. In the end we all seek happiness because our material belongings don’t follow us when we die.

Willy
15-04-2011, 12:53
No no Snoof, I meant if you met me lol. Nothing to do with physical appearance. I believe in women being independent and all but no way do I give the impression of being a feminist.

That one big difference between Russian and American women.

And some American men too. I know one guy who won't date a girl if she doesn't have a job.

valeriaLN
15-04-2011, 13:02
an entire other life?... no no lol. Activities, hobbies.... more helpful would be a job because then you can be financially independent in case your husband can no longer support you. I know most families believe in sharing absolutely everything with one another and sharing all of their experiences together, but I can't help but feel that in the end husbands and wives still need something of their own. I think it's inevitable that they get bored always being with each other especially when you've lived 10 or 15 years together. Do you not agree?

valeriaLN
15-04-2011, 13:04
sorry Will, can you expand on your statement about the difference between american and russian women? Whose what? lol

Willy
15-04-2011, 13:11
Willy you know I always tell people when they ask me what I want from life... I tell them happiness in whatever form it comes to me in. If you found a woman who loves you for who you are despite financial issues... you both are very lucky. In my opinion, financial matters or what baggage you may carry with you from previous relationships is nothing compared to the love two people have. Call me desperate romantic lol if you want, but I believe there is nothing more valuable and true in this world than love. Everything else is fake and holds no value. When you love, you can be happy living in a box on the street :P obviously I’m over exaggerating, but you get the point. I hope you find that if you haven’t already. In the end we all seek happiness because our material belongings don’t follow us when we die.


We never said it and I don't think there really was this great love. Only after we had our son was anything said and I know she wouldn't live in a box for me. I wouldn't let her. She has a job and can take care of herself and my son but I won't let her take care of me. But great love? It's saved for our kid, he's number 1.

Willy
15-04-2011, 13:15
sorry Will, can you expand on your statement about the difference between american and russian women? Whose what? lol

Most American women are feminist. Russians are not. They let men be men and are happy being women. That's why I think Russian women are the most beautiful they are women inside and that where true beauty starts.

valeriaLN
15-04-2011, 13:20
why thank you :) lol. heck why deprive men of the fun job of worrying about financial matters while we play with the babies and make sure we look good? hahaha. seems like a fair deal.

oh and your son is very lucky will ;)

martpark
15-04-2011, 13:28
Feminazis unite !



Rush Limbaugh lives.....like a fat cat.

franzewich
15-04-2011, 13:30
an entire other life?... no no lol. Activities, hobbies.... more helpful would be a job because then you can be financially independent in case your husband can no longer support you. I know most families believe in sharing absolutely everything with one another and sharing all of their experiences together, but I can't help but feel that in the end husbands and wives still need something of their own. I think it's inevitable that they get bored always being with each other especially when you've lived 10 or 15 years together. Do you not agree?

Yes, I absolutely agree with you that every partner should have freedom and pursue other "activities" outside the partnership; it is very important. I could not stand to be locked up.

It's just such that I have seen quite a few marriages and great relationships go down the drain when such "freedoms" get out of control, when trust erodes because second activities become too seclusive. It may become a ride on knife's egde if both are not very careful and the "second activities" turn into a secret "second life". ;)

xSnoofovich
15-04-2011, 13:35
Rush Limbaugh lives.....like a fat cat.

Cuz, that is not off topic at all....

martpark
15-04-2011, 13:54
Cuz, that is not off topic at all....

You didn't know your hero, Rush, invented the 'expression' you used? Ignorance is bliss.

xSnoofovich
15-04-2011, 14:10
You didn't know your hero, Rush, invented the 'expression' you used? Ignorance is bliss.

Here, have some more haterade to go with yer more off topic posts....

http://www.myinvestmentanalysis.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/aussie-haterade.gif

martpark
15-04-2011, 14:24
Here, have some more haterade to go with yer more off topic posts...

Posting right-wing symbols mixed with left-wing ideology is neither on topic nor clever. BTW, Did you make the pics yourself?

xSnoofovich
15-04-2011, 14:30
Posting right-wing symbols mixed with left-wing ideology is neither on topic nor clever. BTW, Did you make the pics yourself?

Too bad there isn't a mod around when you need one...

xSnoofovich
15-04-2011, 14:34
2. No thread hijacking - this means any off-topic post which does not relate to the thread subject. This includes trading insults with other posters in the thread. Such posts WILL be deleted.

martpark
15-04-2011, 14:45
2. No thread hijacking - this means any off-topic post which does not relate to the thread subject. This includes trading insults with other posters in the thread. Such posts WILL be deleted.

I agree completely. So, no more Nazi posts when someone says women should be treated better.

Willy
15-04-2011, 14:49
Posting right-wing symbols mixed with left-wing ideology is neither on topic nor clever. BTW, Did you make the pics yourself?

He's making a statement on what was said. What your doing is getting this thread off topic.

xSnoofovich
15-04-2011, 14:53
Pu-lease ! Can't we all just get along?

http://cdn.newsone.com/files/2009/09/rodney-king.jpg

FatAndy
15-04-2011, 14:57
Some off-topic graphic was removed. Gents, close to marriage, please... ;)

xSnoofovich
15-04-2011, 15:00
Gents, close to marriage, please... ;)

Why did you take my beware of troll down. This is clearly what Marty McFly is doing here.

In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room, or blog, with the primary intent of provoking other users into a desired emotional response or otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion.

FatAndy
15-04-2011, 15:09
I don't see any provocation. Thanks for the info.

xSnoofovich
15-04-2011, 15:12
I don't see any provocation. Thanks for the info.

Obviously you did. Since you felt the need to delete things.

FatAndy
15-04-2011, 15:14
Because of off-topic ;)

Obviously you did. Since you felt the need to delete things.

Willy
15-04-2011, 15:17
Obviously you did. Since you felt the need to delete things.

Your not the only one getting tired of this. I have pm from people complaining. Just a matter of time before people start to revolt.

Funny but the mods have ruined this thread.

Willy
15-04-2011, 15:19
Because of off-topic ;)

You just started a new topic!

xSnoofovich
15-04-2011, 15:19
the mods have ruined this thread.

http://images1.memegenerator.net/ImageMacro/6187824/MOD-Win-no-chance-users-wgamersnet.jpg?imageSize=Medium&generatorName=InceptionBoss

FatAndy
15-04-2011, 15:21
It is terrible, yes. What's about marriage? ;)
Thank you, xSnoofovich, I'll consider to use this pic as my signature, but a bit smaller one :)

xjessie007
05-08-2011, 18:33
What is it like to mary a russian woman? I know - it is very expensive. :) There is one cultural difference. Russian women are very beautiful, but also very expensive. :)

Krolick
05-08-2011, 22:20
What is it like to mary a russian woman? I know - it is very expensive. :) There is one cultural difference. Russian women are very beautiful, but also very expensive. :)
Not necessarily.
It always hurts me when I read things like this :(
Stuff can be expensive, not a wife...

NotMe
06-08-2011, 09:04
What is it like to mary a russian woman? I know - it is very expensive. :) There is one cultural difference. Russian women are very beautiful, but also very expensive. :)

Just for your information: bridewealth is cancelled! :p

Nicofr79
30-08-2011, 17:18
Russian woman are the best - they are kind beautiful and clever enough to say that you are the best guy

AstarD
30-08-2011, 17:27
You're smart! What a good idea!

robertmf
30-08-2011, 20:15
... are there any traps to watch out for or things that we don't think of in the west that they do in Russia?

:elf:

robertmf
30-08-2011, 20:17
What is it like to mary a russian woman? I know - it is very expensive. :) There is one cultural difference. Russian women are very beautiful, but also very expensive. :)

Ost-lust

justbe
31-08-2011, 00:48
:elf:

Have no idea, what is going on there on your picture, but the guy looks like he is happy, doesn't he? :tgif:

robertmf
31-08-2011, 01:06
Have no idea, what is going on there on your picture, but the guy looks like he is happy, doesn't he? :tgif:

That's me with Russian woman !! lol You are up late.

ThePianoPlayer64
04-09-2011, 09:20
Hi! Congratulation!

I can compare Russian women and European only (my knowledge on American women are only from "Sex in the City").

But as for Russian women, I do not see a lot of differences but (ladies, correct me if I am mistaken):

1. Russians like taking care of husbands (like mothers): food, clothes, comfort e.t.c. sometimes too much, but you must appreciate it and show how you love her (including for that);

2. Russians hate when husbands are stingy and you should be sometimes light-minded, show off e.t.c. and then your wife will insist not doing that in future with "Hunny! Your are so fantastic. but next birthday, there is not need to buy a new fur coat for me. I do like mine still." But she will get to know, you love her. Be kind with unexpected gifts sometimes.

Be sure, that your wife will be careful with your money very soon (but not first 6 (7,8) months);

3. R. like when husbands are gentlemen (not matter, you are or you are not for high society).
to let her enter the door first; to help to put on the coat; to open the door of the car are must. You show, how you love her and take care of her.

4. Russians should feel that you are her protection always (a father). There is a proverb "to feel like at the stony wall". It does not mean that your wife is weak and sometimes it will be she who will fight for you and will be ready to be your body guard (a mother) but you need to show, you love her.

5. Russian take care of their exterior and you should mention that "today you are fantastic; This dress is so nice when you put it on". No matter Yellow and Green are not her colors. And you should "insist" on her attending hairdresser's at any convenient for her time. You will show how much you love her.

6. Be sometimes "weak", "cry at her shoulder", that you are depressed e.t.c. (not with her of course), that will give you a chance to show her that you need only her. She is your mother, and you love only her

You know some points are in conflict with each other but that is the life!

To be serious, just love her and take care of her!
_________________________________________________________________
Well, I can vouch for that been married to my Russian better half for the last 10 years she is O.K by me !! and she has a very 32 y/o HOT daughter i.e I am her Stepfather so, I am not complaining as long I have regular BONKING I have no worries, no stress, no bills to pay and I do love her even though we have our UPS AND DOWNS in more ways of the other :celebrate::10518::lovepot::piano:
Anyway, all in all I`M HAPPY for a guy of my age enjoy life to the full I say and live for that day simple logic really !!! :10189::agree::uk: Russia ' 0 ' England ' 1 '
Have a very nice day in Moscow as for me I live the peaceful life good food good s%x :10518:

Nikolai
12-11-2011, 20:06
it somehow appears to me that they re still the most tolerable when it comes to men drinking ...

texhou
12-11-2011, 21:16
I have been married to a Russian woman for the last 12 years and we are in the middle of a divorce. All I can say if keep a close eye on them. They can be as sweet as pie up front but pathological lier's with no moral compass underneath. Don't let the beauty fool you. Make sure you know all their email accounts and ask to see their texts. And remember, Russians always have a back up plan!

rusmeister
12-11-2011, 21:50
I have been married to a Russian woman for the last 12 years and we are in the middle of a divorce. All I can say if keep a close eye on them. They can be as sweet as pie up front but pathological lier's with no moral compass underneath. Don't let the beauty fool you. Make sure you know all their email accounts and ask to see their texts. And remember, Russians always have a back up plan!
It's a tragedy.
Divorce is avoidable, in general, but at least one - and preferably both of the spouses -need to commit to the marriage no matter what; it has to be top priority over everything else.

Sorry to hear that, tex.
If there's anything I could say to help turn it around, I surely would. I almost got divorced after 7 years. Survived the crisis, now we're at twenty years together and I'm very glad I didn't go through with it.

Carl
12-11-2011, 22:16
It's a tragedy.
Divorce is avoidable, in general, but at least one - and preferably both of the spouses -need to commit to the marriage no matter what; it has to be top priority over everything else.

Sorry to hear that, tex.
If there's anything I could say to help turn it around, I surely would. I almost got divorced after 7 years. Survived the crisis, now we're at twenty years together and I'm very glad I didn't go through with it.

It's not a tragedy.. life goes on.

A bigger tragedy is when people that should not stay married.... do, for whatever reasons..and both are miserable.

People are different ..some can and do stay together, others don't. It's life.
I've been married 18 years...with all the ups and downs that come along with it. I'm lucky, I'm have a good marriage.

However, there are bad marriages that should be ended...

rusmeister
12-11-2011, 23:13
It's not a tragedy.. life goes on.

A bigger tragedy is when people that should not stay married.... do, for whatever reasons..and both are miserable.

People are different ..some can and do stay together, others don't. It's life.
I've been married 18 years...with all the ups and downs that come along with it. I'm lucky, I'm have a good marriage.

However, there are bad marriages that should be ended...

I disagree with you, Carl. I think EVERY divorce to be a tragedy.
I don't think we can discuss it it, though, without extensive discussion of what marriage has been - what exactly it is, and what a correct and true philosophy of life is ( by which I mean something completely consistent with the actual nature of humans). To say "It is life" is the same as to say "Children die every day in Angola. That's life." Life includes tragedy, and the ripping apart of a
family is a tragedy. The children know this, even when their parents don't.

Having a correct world view and conforming oneself to it can prevent divorce.
But we will probably fight over what that correct understanding of what actually happens to be the case is. But I can confidently say that one that holds the worldview that I do and is determined to hold it even when the going gets rough is pretty much immune to divorce. The Biblical story of Hosea would be an extreme example, but it would make the point. And the bright side is that an insistence on loving when you don't feel like it tends to generate love. It is hard to hate someone who is loving you.

K.K.
26-11-2011, 00:11
Hi! Congratulation!

I can compare Russian women and European only (my knowledge on american women are only from "Sex in the City").

But as for Russian women, I do not see a lot of differences but (ladies, correct me if I am mistaken):

1. Russians like taking care of husbands (like mothers): food, clothes, comfort e.t.c. sometimes too much, but you must appreciate it and show how you love her (including for that);

2. Russians hate when husbands are stingy and you should be sometimes light-minded, show off e.t.c. and then your wife will insist not doing that in future with "Hunny! Your are so fantastic. but next birthday, there is not need to buy a new fur coat for me. I do like mine still." But she will get to know, you love her. Be kind with unexpected gifts sometimes.

Be sure, that your wife will be careful with your money very soon (but not first 6 (7,8) months);

3. R. like when husbands are gentlemen (not matter, you are or you are not for high society).
to let her enter the door first; to help to put on the coat; to open the door of the car are must. You show, how you love her and take care of her.

4. Russians should feel that you are her protection always (a father). There is a proverb "to feel like at the stony wall". It does not mean that your wife is weak and sometimes it will be she who will fight for you and will be ready to be your body guard (a mother) but you need to show, you love her.

5. Russian take care of their exterior and you should mention that "today you are fantastic; This dress is so nice when you put it on". No matter Yellow and Green are not her colours. And you should "insist" on her attending hairdresser's at any convinient for her time. You will show how much you love her.

6. Be sometimes "weak", "cry at her shoulder", that you are depressed e.t.c. (not with her of course), that will give you a chance to show her that you need only her. She is your mother, and you love only her

You know some points are in conflict with each other but that is the life!

To be serious, just love her and take care of her!

But you are just speaking about some normal typical woman:) Doesn't matter is she Russian or different nationality! if she IS a woman, she is like this:) :gorgeous:

Klapaka
26-11-2011, 23:02
why this subject became so important?